Is this more than a summer fling ?

Question

I am confused about things but I just want to see what you guys or girls think . I'm currently 14 & of course I'm a teen . Well anyways , this summer has been fun , yet plenty of times , it was confusing . There's this guy that I've known ever since I was 8 / 9 . We never really talked until Late 2007 . Anyways , he's only a year older than me, which is 15. Anyways, we started to develop feelings for each other, and our families seem to know each other, well thats how we met, from our families. Over the summer, (this year), we got closer, we talked more & more. We both admitted feelings toward each other. But the thing was that, he lives 20 minutes away from me, which kind of sucks. But whatever. Idk if this was a summer "fling" or anything. I see him like every weekend, but eh. We saw each other last sunday, and it was nice to see him. We were in the pool & i don't think it's wrong if he holds my hand or anything. Well, he grabbed my hand & he just held it & i did too. And I guess he saw my facial expression, and wanted to hold me closer. Because I looked sad. We talked, but it wasnt much because other people kept interferring. So we held hands. And I started to kick my feet in the water, and idk if it was intended for him to play "footsies" with me, but it wasn't intended for that. Way before, we stopped talking, i mean, a couple of days & weeks before, we just stopped talking because i never really answered his question on whether if he wants back or something.

Him: I'm sorry about last night. I didn't mean it like that.

Him: I want to go back to the way things were.

Me: & that is ?

Him: Kind of going out.

I never gave him a response, I just changed the subject, so Idk if he still likes me. D: I know it may seem stupid that we're only teenagers and we don't know what love is & we have a long way to go, but I know we're not in love or whatever, but we have the capability to find love at any age. Like i said, I was confused if he liked me still, or not because on that same day (sunday), he kissed me. It wasn't like slobber tongue & stuff, it was just real, like pg13. LOL. But yeah, I never really asked him if he did like me or not. But what do you think? Because he kissed me. It was unexpected. It just happened. I bumped into him & we just happened to bam! Lol. But yeah, is it just a summer fling or more? Cause, our families know about us and seem cool because i know after highschool, we can still bring back the relationship we once had since our families are close to each other. Unless, he gets another girl, but I guess thats okay with me. So yeah? Help? Should I ask him if he's still " into " me ?

Answer 1

I've got to say, You sound very mature, and very level headed for a 14 year old. The fact that you understand so much so early, really is amazing! It could be love, it could become love, but right now, it's what you make of it. It does sound like he is into you! Next year he is going to be 16, and soon after driving? Then 20 minutes away is really nothing at all. The question you have to ask yourself is, do you want to explore with this guy? Or leave him as something else for later? I mean that like this: If you really like him, time can really mess that up. You'll meet so many new people, and wonder about so many new aspects of relationships, that sometimes it's better to not date your dream guy first. Sometimes it's better to learn the inside out of a relationship, and then when you feel comfortable and stable, go for the good one!

My answer sounds more confusing than your post! Really, bottom line is that you're going to have to learn these things by trial and error. =/ Sucks, but that's how it works most of the time.