Is this normal, am I just a heartless person?

Question

Literally 10 minutes ago I found out my uncle died, well he wasn't my blood uncle, he was my aunts husband and I'm not even that sad about it, I mean it's kind of shocking, but I'm not that sad, it's just weird because I saw him like 1-2 months ago ( my aunt and him live 10-15 minutes away by car) and the last thing he said to me was talking about a garden hose, and I never really got to know him, I mean obviously I met him but I never really knew him, I didn't see him that often and when I did at family celebrations I never talked to him, I have never even had a conversation with him, whenever he talked to me he just said a few sentences at a time, is it normal that I don't feel too sad about it, on a scale of 1-10 of me feeling bad about it and 10 being that I am extremely sad about it, I am only like a 2, POSSIBLY a 3 but I'm not sure, so is this normal, I mean, not to feel that sad when a family member dies, I mean I know I wasn't that close to him but he was still family and I feel like I should be more sad about it then I am, oh and I'm 15 by the way

Answer 1

Because you had little to no interaction with him, you are not feeling any personal loss.  Most grieving is about personal loss.  

You have no personal loss, you feel no pain.  However, it is polite to your family to put on a demeanor of quiet and respect for THEIR personal loss.

Hug and comfort those that are hurting.  Not with words, so much, because you probably don't know what to say.

You can say: "I'm sorry you're hurting so much."

If they ask YOU say: "I'm sad for the whole family."

Just be respectful of those that are hurting.

^j^

Answer 2

It is very normal since you barely knew the man.

Answer 3

I don't get that sad when people die. In fact, I usually celebrate there deaths. Well if I know they are Christian. Because its like them going back home for good.

But when my grandmother died, I was only sad for my mom and my gmas husband, my gpa. But I would say that my scale of sadness was about a 3. I was glad she died because she was miserable and in a lot of pain. She had the flesh eating disease. Ouch I know.

And when my brother died I was only 8, and I understood that he wasn't coming back. But I wasn't mad or sad very much at all. Maybe like a 4.

And then when my grandpa on my dads side died, I was about a 2. Not even that. Maybe like a 1. But I feel horrible that I don't get that sad, it makes me feel like a bad person.

But when Steve Irwin died, it was totally mourning. I even cried, which I never do. On a scale from 1-10 it was a definite 10. Maybe it was because it had always been my dream to work with him when I was older. Even though i knew it would never happen.

I still do miss my grandmother a lot. But I dont get sad. Not sure why. Maybe its because I have had a lot happen and I'm really really strong emotionally.  

Answer 4

So you come from a non emotional family. That is probably why you feel the way you do, and that is sad. I hope that some day you find that special person who will make your life full of meaning and love. Not every family is like yours. Not that there is anything wrong with your family , but it seems to lac a lot. Good Luck!

Answer 5

it's normal because you weren't close to him. thats usually happens with people who lose someone they're not close to, its like when you see someone died on the news and you feel bad and sympathetic, but you get over it quickly. thats what happend when my aunt josephine died i went over her house sometimes when i was little and my mom had to work and my school had a half day or something, but since those are the only things i remember about her i wasn't really sad.. because there were no memories with her for me to miss or get sad over.