Is this normal? I don't really like other people much; for a few reasons...?

Question

I don't like other people much; not to the extent of actively disliking them, simply not caring at all about them. I figure a lot of them are motivated purely by self-interest; everything they do is calculated to somehow benefit themselves.

So, is this at all normal?

Answer 1

You sound exactly like someone I know.  I think people who feel like you are few and far between, but there is nothing wrong with it.  As long as your lack of relationships isn't causing you distress and you're happy, then so what, right?

Just know that not ALL people are motivated by self-interest...they are hard to come by, but I have about four, including myself, in my life right now.  That's it.

Answer 2

Well, if you're like me, it seems you dislike/ distrust a lot of people because you:

a) Are extremely intuitive regarding some negative motives of others, because of past experiences.

b) Find that many of your relationships/ past relationships are/were extremely one-sided (i.e. they demand a lot out of you, and you feel drained rather than uplifted when near these people).

c) You are fed up with the irrelevant little things people go on and on about that have nothing to do with the big picture.

I don't think you're abnormal by any means. Pick and choose the people you spend time with wisely.  It is your life, and there is no need to spend time with people who drain you physically and mentally.  If you are happy spending time by yourself, that means that you are a resourceful, and independent person.

If you do want to make new friends, try to seek out those who share your interests and lifestyle, they will be less likely to suck the life out of you.

I hope that helps you out.

Answer 3

Well, it depends. You have to ask yourself how long have you felt this way? Have people in your life caused you to feel this way, or is is something going on inside you?? It is irational to truly believe ALL people are motivated by self interest..so if it does have something to do with your past friends/family/relationships..then those people probably convinced you everyone is like this. Don't let people use you or take advantage of you, and slowly maybe your view will change??

I mean, I do think everyone is selfish in a way, but people and friends/family that are close to you shouldn't be like that!