Is this normal? I know the situation isn't but...

Question

when I was younger, I had a bad life with a drug addict of a mom who didn't want me.... when I made it to high school I made a good friend out of my math teacher and told her... she knew I wasn't lying or anything and contacted the authorities and then adopted me as her own when they took me away... she had no kids and still as none, so I'm her only....

this adoption was the est thing that ever happened to me and I was still allowed to see my family - except my mom until she got things taken care of, and I really never looked back... (I with people who are about to adopt teenagers too because she did it no problem and I was 13 at the time)

my mom recently died because of drug problems and I do feel sad for her but don't in any way feel affected..... is this normal?

Answer 1

I think you let your mom go years ago when you were adopted.ultimately when an addict is using you mentally prepare yourself for that phone call. She had a long illness and at last she is at rest.You clearly stated  that she didnt want you so there is no reason to feel bad . she was your mom in name only  

Answer 2

your mother was a bad influence to you obviously and you made stronger relationships with the math teacher/parent that adopted you. so... im not sure how you feel, as i dont know you... but it hink that its normal because the woman who gave birth to you doesnt really sound like she was a mother, but the teacher who adopted you is, so you have a stronger relationship towards the new parent, rather than the old 1.

then again, i have no idea what your realy background is... but these are the vibes your question is sending me.

p.s. im sorry about your real mom :(

Answer 3

What a brave thing for your math teacher/adopted mother to do! I think it is very normal to not feel affected by your mom's death. My mother is very similar to yours and I know that if I got that call tomorrow I would feel sad for HER, but it wouldn't really get to me the way that the death of a mother "should". It's almost like you already mourned her death once (when you were saved form that lifestyle), so why would you mourn her again. That's how I feel anyways.

Answer 4

You had no connection to her. Your feelings are normal. Just be glad you were adopted! And be a good healthy mom to your kids if you have some someday!