Is this normal? My brother is 11 years old but he still sleeps with my parents!?

Question

My little brother can't sleep in his own bed. Every night, he sneaks into my parents room and sleeps there. We tried talking to him, but all he said was that he was scared. We took him to a professional, but still nothing. Is this normal?

Answer 1

um no thats not normal srry

i feel bad for ur parents thoo

my friends little sister had the same problem

she used to do that and they got a dog who sleeps in her room now and it makes her feel "safer" i guess

Answer 2

My 24 year old sister still likes to crawl into bed and sleep with my mom when she is home.  I am one of 3 girls, and we all slept with our mom growing up (single parent household).  

He will grow out of it, but if not, so what.  As a parent of 3, soon to be 4 little ones, I would love it if they crawled into bed with me in the middle of the night when they were 9, 16, 21 or 40....  

If your parents don't care......then neither should you really.  

If they do care and want to wean him from the bed, then treat him as you would a baby that is going from crib to bed.  When he gets in bed, get up!  Take him back to his room and gently and lovingly reassure him that all is well.  Keep the hall light on with the door open, get him some water....whatever he needs.  Pray with him and tuck him in and go back to bed.  Keep doing that all night if you have too......one day, he will stay there......

Answer 3

Your parents could buy him a night light, he's a little bit too old to be sleeping with your parents though.

Good Luck.X :-)

Answer 4

it doesn't sound normal, your mother needs to stop allowing it because he will become to dependant and it will not help him later in life  

Answer 5

Hi,

No, that is NOT normal.

He should sleep into his own bed.

Your parents and your brother needs professional help.

I would try Dr Pill.

-R.

Answer 6

Its not normal, but its not too extreme he will probably be embarrsed when he turns 13 or so i wouldn't worry about it to be honest.

Answer 7

no he has some attachment issues they should kick the habit asap 11 is a little big for that take away his option to go in their room.  

Answer 8

no

Answer 9

No, not normal.  It is your parents fault, not your brothers.  They have allowed this for 11 years.  They need to go see a professional.

Answer 10

Well, it's normal for them because they let him do it!!  Otherwise no, it's not normal, The question says that he can't sleep in his own bed and everynight he sneaks into the parents room and sleeps there. This would suggest that  he started out in his own room and then goes into their room. So really he is in his own room for a bit each night. The parents just need to immediately take him right back to his room the minute he sneaks in. Take him back to his room get him back into his bed and then ask him what right then, when he got out of bed, was bothering him. Whatever that reason is try and talk him through it. Assure him that he will be ok in his own bed and that he needs to stay there. Tell him good night and then go back to their own bed. This may take several cycles until he finally realizes that he isn't going to get to stay in his parents bed. Eventually he will do this and get tired and fall asleep. Of course this is harder on the parents but only initially. Yes,it would be easier to just let him in your bed, not discuss it and then go back to sleep but that is really not good parenting. So many parents take the easy route because they don't want to deal with cying or whatever. Get over it!  Disciplining a child takes effort but it works!!  It's always harder on the parents when first initiating change but that hard work most usually pays off with good results. It's always easier to let a child continue a certain behavior but whoever said that parenting was going to be easy. If a child is allowed to do what they want they will only learn that they can always get their way. Not a good trait when they get into adulthood. Not good for the peace in the family home. Good luck to ya.

Answer 11

that is definitely not normal

Answer 12

So long as your brother (11) is innocent even in that age, there is nothing abnormal in his sleeping with your parents. Once we go to sleep, all of us are in the same position (unconscious).

Suppose your parents still need privacy, then they can make him sleep in his room. After your brother goes to deep sleep, your parents can go to their own rooms. Young children will not generally get up during night.

Bring to your brother's notice that all his friends and class-mates of his age are sleeping in their own rooms. Why do not you also do the same way? Convince him repeatedly. Soon he will come to realize.

Answer 13

umm NO

Answer 14

yeah, i'm 14 and i do that, it's just the dark, you never know what could be there. i get scared all the time.  

Answer 15

That isnt normal unless something drastic happened that made him forever traumtized then there is no reason he should be sneaking into your parents room every night he need to be evaluated or recieve futher proffesional help

Answer 16

no

Answer 17

he feel insecure.. even if you waste your money for consultation, phys, or professional there is no cure to it.. Time and courage is the best medicine.

Make him secure , give him toys as a companion , gives some motivation , use stories like tooth faires as his protection during his sleep.

Answer 18

it's not normal but he'll grow out of it or you'll have to lock him in his own room when he is like 16 to let him get use to used to it.

or lock all your doors so he has no where else to go, after a while he'll get used to it, he'll hate you now but when he grows up he'll thank you for it.

as he ages, peer pressure may also force him to adapt.

i was afraid of darkness when i was young too, until i accepted Christ that I know the powers of the devil has been defeated, and are under me.

bring him to church may be a good solution!

Answer 19

That is NOT normal.

Answer 20

I have a 10 year old brother who does the same thing.

Are his biological mother and father still married? Did something happen to him when he was younger?

My parents went through a divorce when he was around 5 years old, and it scared him. They would fight and his father would threaten our mother.. He didn't want to leave her side.

Eventually, he will gorw out of it. I have a friend who's female cousin slept with her mother until she was 16! But of course it won't last forever. Someone will come along and make fun of him and embarrass him, and he'll want to be "grown up", and will go on his own. Give him time. I am surprised you talked to a professional about this... He is still pretty young. He will grow out of it, I'm sure.

Answer 21

No not really he might just feel comfortuble with them! Try this have your parents sleep in his bed with him untill he falls a sleep then they leeve and go to their bed

Answer 22

no its not normal but apparently your parents let him sleep with them too long..

they need to get him a nightlight and tell him to sleep in his own bed..

they need to b stern with him and show him that nothing in his room is gonna harm him, show him that theres nothing in there...