Is this normal behavior for a one year old?

Question

I have been watching this baby since he was 3 months old. He has always been a very fussy baby. He would scream in his carseat, fight sleep, need to held a lot, etc. He is now turning a year old and he is still very fussy. I thought by now he would grow out of some of this stuff. He hardly crawls, he holds his bottle by himself for me, but his mom says she has to hold it at home or he wont take it. He will not sit on the floor and play independently for more than a two minute period of time before he starts screaming at the top of his lungs. As soon as he is picked up, tough, he stops like a switch has been flipped. So I stopped picking him up right away. I sit on the floor and try to play with him, I show him the toys. I only put certain toys out so that I can switch them from day to day so they do not get boring. He won't have any of it. If I would let him sit there and cry, he would cry all day. I have been doing this for over a month now, the not picking him up when he screams

Answer 1

Well, he probably has an attachment problem. you are doing the right thing. let him scream for about 10 mins...and it should slowly subside...if not, always remember to make sure hes fed, changed, dry, ect. if he is...then let him scream for a max of 30 min...then you'd have to pick him up because too much screaming for a baby can exhaust their lungs...just let him cry....it will show him that he doesnt ALWAYS need someone to hold him.

=] Good Luck =]

Answer 2

The problem is one of or both of his parents are spoiling him. But if you can tolerate it for a little while longer-you can teach him that you WILL NOT spoil him..I work with 1-2 year olds and some spoiled by their parent's don't get spoiled by me and they know that. Hope this helps..Just be patient even though Iknow thats tough!

Answer 3

yeah its normal!  my daughter is very similar to that.  she has always been a fussy baby.  since she was born and when she walks around all day she wines cuz she wants to be held.  or she scared where going outside.  shes 12 months. thats just his personality right now.  he is still a  baby. he just  reqires alot of attention.

Answer 4

I would get him checked I don't think it's normal behavior if it happens so often. ya know?

Answer 5

I don't think it's normal, but what it sounds like is that his mother has spoiled him to death since birth.  The only way to break him of it is if you and his mother both stick together and treat his screaming the same way...don't indulge him!

Answer 6

Have you talked to his doctor about this?  Many babies are fussy, but this seems extreme.  You sound like a good mom, hang in there.

Answer 7

this is difficult since you are only the caregiver but he should be checked and tested - sounds like he may be autistic - this means he falls somewhere in the spectrum it may be mild autism

Answer 8

Two things here:  first of all his parents need to get him checked out by a doctor, this is not "normal" behavior.  Something is wrong OR mom enables this behavior at home by holding the bottle thereby setting a pattern for him, resulting in him expecting you to coddle him as well.  Second, don't feel bad if he cries because you are not holding him 100% of the time.  Crying babies are actually good thing, it helps their lungs so his crying while I am sure tests your nerves is not that bad.

Since mom holds his bottle at home, I wonder if mom isnt a coddler, always holding him, devoting her entire attention to him which is resulting in him expecting it from everyone.  This could be a medical issue or a mothering issue.  

GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Crying is the most effective way babies have of communicating their needs. Most babies spend as much as seven per cent of the day crying.

It can take parents some time to learn to recognise what a baby's cries mean. But by about four to six months most are able to differentiate between a cry of pain from a grizzle of hunger or a whine of boredom.

Most tiny babies have episodes of crying, which is often a sign of discomfort such as colic, but the cause often isn't proven. Even by the age of nine months, one in four babies has episodes of crying for no obvious cause.

Answer 10

it doesn't sound normal. my daughter didn't want to be put down while teething or when she is really tired, but she plays well on her own most of the time. he should be checked to make sure there isn't something wrong.

Answer 11

he is spoiled and coddled too much.....and he hasn't been given the chance to develop his own independance.  keep doing what you are doing.