Is this normal for a guy to be like this?

Question

Been seeing this guy the past 5 months we get on really really well he makes me laugh and i get no mixed signals when i am with him, he is very attentive and we act couply. The thing is he is so bad at returning my calls and texts, i confronted him about it the last time it happened and he said that he is just so busy with work (he works 12 hour days and his job is a very important one) and his family and he also has been single for so long that he just forgets. When i 1st met him he said that he hadnt dated for so long because he has been so used to being on his own for so long. He says he really likes me and loves spending time with me, i asked him to just be honest with me if he didnt want to continue seeing me and he said that he does want me and he wants to see what happens between us, he also told me to stop worrying about everything. I have been so patient with him that i hope it pays off. Do men like a patient woman?? And also are all guys just bad at remembering to text/call your woman?? Everything is great when we are together so why am i so scared when i dont hear from him?? help going insane

Answer 1

All men are the same from my experience. If he treats you great the rest of the time then you can let him off for forgetting 2 text you back sometimes. Be careful not to go on about it 2 much or he might think you are nagging and being paranoid - if he's done nothing 2 make u doubt him u need to trust him more and relax wen u don't hear from him

Answer 2

yeah every guy i know is like that

i never remember to return texts and stuff especially if ive been at work thats the last thing you think about

i wouldnt worry he seems to be fine with everything just forgetful!

Answer 3

hiya sally,my son is just the same with his g/f.she often rings me up crying,saying as he found somebody else, etc etc.so you are not the only girl this happens to.don't worry boys are terrible,no responsibility at all.just be happy you have got yourself a nice boy,who is working,and not hanging around the streets looking for trouble.just think of all those nice presents he will buy you,with all that money he is working so hard for.put your fears away, and start looking forward to going out some where nice,when he is off work.have a great night out.have loads of fun.xx

Answer 4

just relax, from the sounds of it. He just might be out of the whole thing a little bit. Plus working a 12 hour day is alot of work, thats not even including the family or any other things in life he might have. Like you said your always so happy when together and he shows you that he cares. Now, you just need to think about this, Is he worht waiting around to come through and liven up. you are the only one who knows you, You make that choice.

Answer 5

Lads are so bad a returning texts and calls and stuff like that. I think some times they don't get what it means and how it can make us feel when they don't reply some times.

I know once my boy friend and i were going through a but of a rough path and he stopped answering to my texts and stuff and now when ever he doesn't reply back it gets me thinking, like oh my gosh is he in a mood with me or some thing.

If i were you i would tell him how you feel and what it is like for you when you don't get a reply back, ask him how he would feel if the tables were turned?

Really i think you just need to tell him how you feel. But really understand that he might not be doing it on intentionally. But still he has to understand that he is in a relationship and what he does and doesn't do has an effect on you both.

Good luck!! I know you may be scared to talk to him but if you ain't happy you have to let him know what is bothering you, and if he cares about you i am sure he will understand.