Is this normal of me at this age?

Question

Im only 17 and i know having a baby at this age is obviousley out of the question. But today my friends and i were talking and we and got on the subject on babies. I just really cant wait to be a mom, i love kids and i know that one day i will be a great mother its just somthing that i am so excited for. I want to experience the pregnancy and everything that comes with it. My friends said i am thinking way to much ahead and i should not want to even think of having a baby at 17. Are they right? I mean dont plan on getting pregnant of course and i am going to college and will be married before i have childern its just something i can not wait to happen. Should i act "more my age"?

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

Don't worry about acting your age.  It is perfectly normal for you to ask yourself these questions and to experience a longing for motherhood.  This is how God created you. It is also how He is helping you to become the woman you were intended to be. The fact that you actually welcome the experience shows a certain maturity that goes beyond friends your own age.  

Your friends however sound like they are offering genuine concern in their advice to you. They probably do not know how to convey that message with a whole lot of tact.  Nobody really has to tell you - motherhood is wonderful, but very difficult when that card is played out before one is truly ready.

Don't let your excitement die or your love for what you believe grow dim.  As you take time out to nuture who you are in your seventeen year old life, you can still take the opportunity to observe mothers w/ their children, read books that will help you be the best parent possible, and study the fine art of childhood development.   When the door of possibility becomes an entryway to reality, you will be far ahead of your peers.

Answer 3

A lot of kids your age want to have children until they actually have to experience all of the crying and diaper changing that goes with it. You really shouldnt be so anxious because when that kid comes your life is over, it becomes all about that kid. At your age you really dont understand the responsibility that comes with having a child.

And i know your going to say that you do understand but you dont!

At 17 you are a child and kids should not have kids. Enjoy growing up and just chill out on the kid wanting, youll have plenty time for that when you graduate from college and actually have the good education to support it.

Answer 4

You only get to be young once.

A good way to get over your excitement.  Babysit a friend's kid overnight.  Younger the better.  That will hold you over for a couple months.

Answer 5

Its wonderful that you ARE SO EXCITED ABOUT HAVING A  baby and looking forward to it...BUT..listen to your friends....you are young and have so much life ahead of you..finish school and fall in love..etc....when it is time for oyu to have a baby, you will probably be a great Mom and Wife..HUGS!!  Just don't hurry, honey...

Answer 6

lol its not out of the question as i had my first child at 17 but obviously its not an option for you if your hesitant.

Basically, i find theres nothing wrong with having kids younger. This way you get to enjoy kids while your still young, you still have time to go out, be young, get a career and stick with it... you dont have to work your butt off, climb the career ladder, and then give it all up for the option of having a family... im 21 pregnant with my 3rd and im a stepmum to 2 more so im more than happy with the life i lead! I dont need to be some glamourous person. im happy being a mother and a partner whos training herself whilst raising kids in the career i want to ultimately be in.

Thing is, never worry about what others think. Do what you want to do. If the day comes that my daughter comes home at 17 pregnant, i'll be right beside her supporting her... because its so not the end of the world... i would say it was the best decision i ever made!

Answer 7

Hi dear..

You are still 17.  What are you planning to do to finance the baby needs & expenses?

You most PROPERLY will end up dropping out of school.

& what about the father of this baby, is he showing you any type of commitments?

Getting pregnant is easy, but being a parent who can secure their baby’s life is another issue.

Think twice & make SURE that YOU RECEIVE HELP & SUPPORT FROM YOUR FAMILY??

SORRY TO SAY THAT, BUT PARENTING IS NOT AN EASY JOB. ONCE YOU have the baby, ITS NOT GOING TO BE ABOUT YOU ONLY anymore… I mean after delivery…

Good luck

:=:

Answer 8

I first started wanting children at 10-11, and I knew I was too young. People who are saying looking after a young baby may change your mind, this may not be true. My sister was born when I was ten and I helped my mum ALOT I did the feedings sometimes, occassionaly got up in the middle of the night to help my mum and changed some nappies. It didn't put me off at all in fact it made me want to be a mum even more!!

I am almost 19 and I got pregnant at 18, which me and my husband planned, well all but the triplet part :)

I know I will be a good mum and hopefully I ill do my best :)

Good Luck

x*x

Answer 9

Well, I know that I've looked forward to having a family of my own since my mom put a baby doll in my hands when I was three.  I think it is normal of you to be thinking about the future...but you've got to consider your life now.  

Obviously you know that having a child at seventeen is irresponsible...You would be complicating your life as well as your family's.  I think your friends are just telling you to not even think about it cause they don't...but having gone to an all girls school, I can tell you that girls think about it.  If you ever were in a possible situation in which you could be pregnant, I honestly think you'd be scared ****less.  

The only way I could see you not "acting your age" now is if you let this fantasy consume you.  Just try to take it easy and have fun.  The thought of having a child may be very exciting to you, but trust me..if you want them...babies will come later.  You'll never get back the time you have now, so try and concern yourself with other things. :)

Answer 10

This is normal around that age! You aren't too far away from being a mother. I could see if you were 11 or 12 talking like this but your almost an adult.

Answer 11

i love babysitting! little kids are so much fun!

Answer 12

It not any different then,planning your wedding,career,house,husband ect. I am a detailed thinker too.I have always been,there isn't any harm in knowing what you want,who you want to be around,and knowing how your going going to be.

Answer 13

it is perfectly natural for u to feel that way and you are very smart to wait it is a huge responsibility, you thinking of this so soon only means that you are a nuturer and will one day make a wonderful mother! good luck

Answer 14

that's normal like, i can't wait to have a baby either..and i'm pretty young to.  ha. i know EXACTLY where you're coming from..i just can't wait to be a mom, i think it'll be the greatest thing. haa

Answer 15

..the idea is to be yourself.. not act your age..:) so chill

I had a vivid dream one day... I was 15.. I was pregnant .. happy and then I had a baby.. I loved the baby, it was beautiful, We were happy... I could feel the happiness in my bones..then I WOKE up... I actually looked around for my baby... teh dearm was so REAL.. I was soo sad on not finding my baby with me... but then life took over .. but I know what I wanted was to ahve a family.. That did not stop me from going to collage... working... gettig married... FInally I HAD a baby... I was 29 :)  

What I am trying tosay is that wanting a baby at 17 is not wrong...it is just knowing what you realllly want... but dont forget that there is more ti life..you need to do stuff to get there.. also think about teh kind of mother you wnat to be... a well educated.. confidant one... that will come from  studying, haveing a career. ( you can decide to be a SHAM when teh time  comes... ) etc... Good luck...

Answer 16

no thats completely fine! i just turned 18 and most of my friends cant wait to have a baby. i dont plan to have one for a little bit firstly cos i have noone to have it wiht, second i got not money lol and cos i want to go uni etc. but dont think u need to act ur age! u are acting your age! in fact what you described shows a great maturity and passion. good for you if you want to have a baby! and good for you to know that youre not ready, its better that than rushing into it not knowing much and being unprepared.

you sound like a beautiful young woman, dont let anyonnee tell you your being dumb for wanting to have  a baby someday. pregnancy is an amazing thing, its having a creature created inside you, of course youll want to experience it! i thinik your friends are the ones that need to grow up a little.

hope this helps. :D