Is this normal or is something wrong with me?

Question

I am 20 and never had a boyfriend. I got this thing that comes natural to just push guys away. I remember one who were talking to me, I blew him off (I kind of feel bad) but I really thought that all he wanted to do was trying to get in my pants. Now there is another whom I actually like, but can’t let myself go out with. Since he’s 18, I find his age the perfect target for me to escape him trying to talk to me. The problem is, it hurts me to know that he says I’m just not ready and he’ll wait….I told him not to. But he wont listen to me. They all believe that I’m just being hurt due to past relationship…..but truth is,,,,,( I really believe that if my dad, the one man that I thought was good could have cheated on my mom, then there is not a man in this world worth trusting. 1. Is something wrong with me. 2. What do I do about my friend, I do like him but I can’t imagine myself going out with him.

Answer 1

Give yourself time.  Maybe when the right one comes along, you won't have this feeling.

Answer 2

Hello, there is nothing wrong with the way you feel right now, concidering what you have experience {your mother and father situation}. A matter of fact you have good reason to feel that way,but as time goes on you will begin to develope a need for a friend not only a girl  but a boy friend,and not only for the sake of the word {boyfriend} but in need of a male perspective.See you have admitted that you like him and {really} going out with him does not mean you have to act as BFandGF just friends going out enjoying each others company and let everything else play its part.  

Answer 3

1.  Nothing wrong with you.  You have learned not to trust.  Some guy will have to prove to you that he can be trusted.

2. Age is no big deal.  If you like him, go out to safe things -- lunch, afternoon walks and the like until you feel right about going out at night.

Answer 4

I'm 23 and I had one boyfriend when I was in the 9th grade, but we never did anything (I wasn't really allowed to date or go out much). I broke up with him then because I didn't really see it going anywhere, and I felt bad holding him back. I haven't dated anyone since then and really have no desire to. I also find myself getting really offended when I find out that anyone is interested in me. I'm not sure why, I don't offend easily, but I think it's because dating seems childish and stupid to me. I'm not an affectionate person and mating rituals seem like such a waste of time to me. But if you want to be in a relationship with this kid, you're just going to have to try it out. Tell him your reservations about it and if it doesn't seem right, break it off. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Normal is such a relative term.