Is this normal? please read =[?

Question

I lost my grandma over 4 years ago.

I was extreamly close to her, we told each other everything and i loved her soo much. She unfortuantly died from a slow growing brain tumor which made it even more painful for me to part with her, i was only 11 at this time so i didnt fully understand what was happening to her.

during these four years i have missed her a lot, but this past year i have missed her even more than ever. I find myself looking at old photos of her and crying more often; is this normal?

She has also been appearing in a lot of my dreams recently, does this mean anything?

thanx for reading x

Answer 1

oh sweetheart, we all grieve differently. yes its completely normal for it to have just sunk in.  i lost my cousion when i was very very young too, and it took along long time for me to realise she was gone.  one night i dreamed that she came back and she was mad at everyone for saying she was dead and i woke up and i felt i had lost her again.  The fact is nobody is ever really gone aslong as you keep them in your heart and memorys.

Answer 2

It's part of the healing process, I lost an uncle who was like a father to be about a year ago and it was very painfull. I had dreams about him too but when I woke up I realized that it was going to be okay that he was in a better place. Your grandmother is in a better place and she wouldn't want you to be crying for her just keep her in your memory and I hope you get through this.

Answer 3

I think so. You were very young when you lost her, and not that you're a bit older, think it's really sinking in. Her appearing in your dreams is probably your subconcious thinking about her, as well as your concious self.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

You're just more stressed than normal and the only comfort you found was in her. I could swear I smelled my mother's breath when I got up one night and she's been deceased for 8 years now! Your grandmother appears in your dreams because that's her way of comforting you and let you know that she's not physically there, but she's always here to comfort you. So whatever has your mind running 40 going north, grandma wants you to let it go.

Answer 5

it probably means you are dragging up old memories and you finnaly fully understanding what happened

Answer 6

yes it is totaly normal my grandma died 3 years ago and i still cry a lot

Answer 7

of course this is normal if my grandma died i would be doing the same thing. losing someone is very hard and it means that u love her and miss her very much