Is this normal to be feeling like this?

Question

hey

i'm 21 years old and been with my hubby for 6 years...

it took us 1 year and 5 months to fall pregnant but sadly miscarried at 6 weeks pregnant....

we fell pregnant just 2 weeks after our miscarriage and now have a stunning son who's only 3 weeks and 2 days old....

but already i'm feeling SO brody and cant wait to be pregnant and go through the labour and have another baby......

even looking at pictures of new mums with there new baby at the hospital makes me SO brody. i just really canny wait.

because i am SO enjoying my son and copying really well with motherhood i feel sooo ready for it again and even said we will start trying again in 3 years time but dont think i could wait that long.

is this normal to feel like this so soon after birth and has anyone been or going through this???????

thanks

Answer 1

whoop I couldn't be bothered - thank god !

Answer 2

You just had a baby 3 weeks ago - ANYTHING you feel is normal! Your hormones are still raging.

Give it some time, once the hormones settle down you might feel a bit differently. If not, no harm. Just talk to your husband about it, maybe you could work out a compromise between right now/3 years.

Answer 3

I think it is normal to feel that way.  I have a good friend that had her first baby recently.  I went to visit her about 3 weeks after the baby was born and she said she was wanting another one so badly.  I think it just gives you the itch.  Plus you are just transitioning from pregnancy to motherhood.  She loved, loved, loved being pregnant so it was hard for her I think not to be anymore.  Plus she was still having lots of visitors and excitement about that baby's arrival.  I talked to her recently and the baby is now 3 months going on 4 months and she said although she wants more children she is glad she isn't pregnant right now.  The visitors have gone home and the real work has started with caring for the baby.  So you may have this feeling change over time.  It is up to you and your hubby when to add another baby.  So if you feel the time comes sooner than later than do it.  Best wishes!!!

Answer 4

Why not compromise and start trying again in 18 months time, that will give you enough time to see how you manage with your son and get used to him before adding a sibling.

I understand your feelings completly but would advise you to wait a while, as hes only three weeks, so you've not had him in your life for very long and it would be much harder work with two babies to look after.

Good Luck, you sound like a great mother!

Answer 5

hey is that u mandy ur my bebo friend lol

i know the feeling i had baby summer 3 weeks ago and shes my second and i really want another 1

but yes its better to give your body time to recover properly again

x*x

Answer 6

Yeh it is normal to experience some period of this when your baby is young, but it should recede once teething sets in, and then crawling, and then tantrums and then talking back lol. Maybe you won't be able to wait 3 whole years, but definitely get a bit more into the parenthood than 3 weeks before deciding you want to do it again right away hehe

Answer 7

I felt exactly the same. As soon as I had my baby (within days!) I wanted another one. I think it might be partly due to the hormones, because this feeling did die down a bit. Although I always felt I wanted a second, I waited until he was a year old before TTC.

To be honest, I'm glad I waited because they just get harder and harder!

Answer 8

wow, uve been married since u were 15, freak!

Answer 9

personally I didnt feel like this, my son has just turned 9mo and I am only now just starting to feel this way but my cousin felt like this and she now has 4 boys aged 6,4,3,2 and a girl who will turn 1 at christmas. I just think that you should wait until your son is at least 15mo, that is how long your body needs to fully recover from everything it has just been through (crazy I know) and then if you still feel this way, maybe you should have a word with your husband, he may feel the same or he may be willing to wait until your son is 2 instead of 3, either way, you need to wait for your own sake.

good luck and congrats on yur new born =) x*x

Answer 10

My 2 girls were such perfect babies.. (and it seemed easy) but as they grow it does get alot harder and i think more time demanding..I would suggest waiting awhile and spend more time enjoying new baby. I think it is normal to feel like this as i did but waited and have a 2 year gap between my girls. BTW CONGRATS..

Answer 11

just chill and enjoy your son, everything happens for a reason and will happen at the right time.

Answer 12

I know EXACTLY how you feel!!  When I was pregnant we talked about waiting 3 years or so to try for our 2nd, but now there is no way I could wait that long!  My son is 13 months old and I've been chomping at the bit to try for another.  It's been so hard to hold off trying (I didn't want to have babies too close together as such hard work) but we are starting to try now.  All I can say is, if you feel you can cope with two so close together - go for it!!  Congrats on your little man! x

Answer 13

Being such a new Mom, there's no emotion that's "normal" or "abnormal". Emotions are often controlled by hormones. And, since you just had a baby, you're hormones are CRAZY right now. New moms produce extra hormones that create a feeling of euphoria and aides in helping you to bond with your newborn. Some women swing to the other side of the spectrum and have serious depression. Be glad you're not one of those. Enjoy your happiness!!