Is this normal to feel?

Question

I want a baby, but he doesn't. He said he doesn't know what he wants right now because he's only 25. I know that I'm NOT financially ready and that I will have a lot to deal with but I can't help the way I feel.

I lied and said I was on birth control. We haven't had s*x yet, but I feel bad for lying to him. And yet, I DON'T. Am I crazy??? Is this normal to want a baby so bad with someone you love, but doesn't entirely love you???

Answer 1

Don't know what's normal or abnormal about these things.  Think about the baby who faces growing up without a father and without resources to start off to a good life.  Children who gwo up without fathers are statistically likely to have a very, very difficult life.  Why punish the baby?

Answer 2

The 'Feeling' could be called 'normal', but following feelings does not always lead us in the best direction for our lives or others.  You need to be less worried about 'feeling normal' and more concerned about the quality of life for yourself, your BF, and a partially 'unwanted' child.  Yes, there are single parents who do an excellent job raising a child.  But a child DESERVES TWO loving parents, even if they are not together.  If you are thinking 'reproduction', instead think 'quality of life'.  

Answer 3

Normal to feel that way----yes. Not cool though to act on it. Don't lie to him and have him get you  pregnant, because then he might be mad enough to leave you. Then you  are stuck with a baby that is hard to support and no one to love you.

Answer 4

So lay out the pros and cons: does he leave you once you're pregnant and you end up being a single parent.

Answer 5

It is completely normal to want a baby.  You are a woman, and it is your hormones talking.  However, you must take your situation at face value.  Do not lie about birth control.  If you two were to have s*x and you were to become pregnant, he would know you have lied to him.  If he doesn't entirely love you, what are the chances he would stick around for a child he does not wish to support.

Be open with him, and wait until you find the man who wants to have a baby with you as well.  You will be so happy you waited until you were in mutual love, and were financially sound.

Answer 6

It's more normal than you'd probably think, but it is not a responsible or mature thing to do. I really think you should reconsider your whole idea, because chances are it will only end badly for you. I understand you want a baby, babies are cute and adorable, and a great thing to share with someone when you're ready. But you're obviously not. You said your self your not financially ready, and babies are expensive, and they are also A LOT of work. I understand you love him, but you need to understand that pushing a baby on him when he doesn't want one will most likely just drive him away. If he doesn't love you like you love him, then chances are he won't want anything to do with your baby. Maybe he's a good guy and would support you and it, but it's more likely that your lieing and forcing him into fatherhood would completely turn him off, and even end your relationship.

If he's not ready for a child, it's completely unfair to force one on him. If you love him you'll respect the fact that he doesn't want a child yet, and you'll wait until he's ready.

Answer 7

if there is a doubt, dont do it!! Its not fair to bring a child into this world when it is only wanted by one parent.  I know accidents happen, and that cannot be helped, but if you know youare trying to get pregnant and lying to him, its not fair to the child nor your partner.  A child is a lifelong commitment, and its more than you think.  Wait until the time is right, and you will both be happy to have this child.  

Answer 8

I want a baby too but that don't mean I'd lie to him to get it.  Your being selfish.

Answer 9

babies r alot of work and you should use lies to get one. volunteer at a hospital