Is this normal to feel this way??! ( Long question ) Helpful and caring advice please! =[

Question

Im 16 years old, And recently split with my boyfriend who is 18, We where together for a year and a half, We where really close, Live around the corner from each other, Saw each other everyday, And as cliche as it sounds, He was my everything and even if he was my first love, i loved him alot.. We where going through a hard time and one day he turned around and said he had " Fallen out of love with me " I was heartbroken, Not eating or sleeping for weeks.. I then found out i was pregnant with him, SO obviously i had to tell him, He didnt take it to well and wanted me to have an abortion saying, The abortion was best as were young and he dosent want a baby, He said that if i had the baby he wudnt be there at all.. But him knowing that i had been through serious bulimia and had been told having kids might not be a possibilty he knew if i got pregnant i would keep the baby, And its not like it was a mistake or accident,i was incrediably nieve and we was having unprotected s*x.He must of known it could happen.. While i was pregnant he messed me around, One mintue he would sleep with me, Giving me the wrong idea, and pick me flowers, the next he would egnore my texts, The next we would be meeting up and things would be like old times. Then it was time to tell his parents, They reacted well at first saying they wernt pleased, But i am the only one that can decide and they have to respect whatever descion is made! A few weeks later, i suffered a misscarriage and i was obviously devastated.. i text him to let him know and i never got an answer that was 2 weeks ago.. =[, Understadbly he is young and never wanted it in the first place but i just cant to seem to move on from him, My family have been supportive but i dont no whats wrong, i cant seem to move on and im still devastated about the misscarriage. His parents did not even get in contact with me to see how i am, And his famiyl have been really nasty towards me, i was on bebo and my exs brother and his gf where talking and leaveing comments to each other like " Glad i rang you, i dont believe that or do i?! i dont care anymore, ( Like i ever did) Noone cares thats the funny thing.. and she replied things like " Lol i agree, i think someone had a lucky escape there! ". My ex now dosent speak to me at all, And the other day i bumped into him in the street and my mate shouted another mate who was infrount, And i think my ex thought she was shouting at him and he turned around aggressvly and shouted " Got something to say? " its really hurting me not being able to talk to him even after what hes done! For some reason i cant explain it i feel guilty towards them because i feel like iv caused it to make them mad and for them to egnore me,I see them all, All the time, i know i have to " Move on " With my life but i simply cnt, i just dont no what to do =[

Answer 1

Oh wow hunny. I went through the same thing when I was 16. I wasn't pregnant but I had a huge pregnancy scare. My ex ended up using me for s*x until February of this year, we're 18 and he's going out with a 15 year old. In the mean time, I've decided to become super close to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and really do some serious soul searching. Now I'm over him after so many years of being sad it took a really long time but now I'm happy with myself and who I am. My email is [e-mail] if you ever need to talk. I feel really bad for you, I know how you feel, and I'm choking up just from reading your story. Good luck girl.

Answer 2

at your age and what you've been through it's very normal to feel the way that you feel.  you've been through so much and still so very young.  you are feeling very attached to him due to him being your first real love.

you are dealing with adult issues and you are still so very young.  this time of your life, it's hard, and you've learned some very tough lessons that will make you stronger the rest of your life.

you have to believe that everything happens for a reason, even when things seem tragic and awful, later you look back and you know you learned from it.  you can help other people who are going through hard times because of what you are going through now.

but you have to hold on tight right now.  get back into a regular routine, do the stuff that you "should" be doing at your age, which is school, spending time with your girlfriends and preparing for your life as an adult.  

so just put one foot in front of the other, day by day, month by month.  by this time next year, you will not remember this pain, you are just going through the grieving of your relationship breakdown, and the loss of the pregnancy.  

bulimia does not mean you cannot have children.  but do seek treatment for the condition and focus on being healthy,  your family will always be there for you.  boyfriends are just what they are, "boyfriends", you do not marry or settle down with a man you meet at this age, 10 years from now is more likely that you will find and marry and have children.

meantime use protection if you are ever intimate again.

and by the way, texting is not the appropriate way to communicate something so important.  he is too young and immature to handle the situation.

best of luck to you.  be strong.  you will do just fine.

Answer 3

You seem like a great person, he had no right to treat you that way, i figure the best way to get over him is to hang out with your friends alot, talk out your problems, and find someone else,  best of luck

Answer 4

hehe... wow. that is long.

this is actually pretty bad. especially since he is ur first. first love. first s*x. first everything.

it will be hard to let go. almost impossible. but with time. you'll survive.

just remember. once you love someone. they will always be a part of you.

so your boy still loves you. he just has problems to work out.

and dont expect him to come to ur rescue unless ur like dying or something... (dont fake suicide, im not giving u any ideas here...)

his family should be neutral to u but its awkward for them. im guessing they're not the type to comfort u and such. they're the type to avoid encounters to avoid the awkwardness...

theres nothing u can do but live. and hope that with time. someone else. something else. will find u and help u. people come and go from our lives all the time. the few that stays, are the ones lucky enough to hold u at the end.

good luck. sorry theres nothing more i can do.

Answer 5

Im sorry you have been through so much. People like him are little a******s who are so miserable themselves that they have to put others down. You are so much better off without him!!! Good luck with everything!  

Answer 6

I'm so sorry. Just give it time. That's all that's going to help. I don't know what bebo is but can't you block them? Remember, what doesn't kill you make you stronger. Take care.

Answer 7

Naturally he doesn't want kids.  He's an 18 year old guy.

You should have cut things off when he broke up with you and stopped sleeping with him.  Honestly it looks like you got yourself into this by having unprotected s*x.

Answer 8

....wait......WHAT!?..... UGH IM SOO CONFUZZED!!!!!!!!!