Is this normal to feel this way?

Question

I feel very alienated by my family. Three of my brothers have all kinds of cool friends to smoke pot and play XBOX 360 with all day, and my youngest brother is a video game nerd who hangs out with a bunch of retarded little kids who also have compulsive obsession and childish behavior. My mother is over-protective of me and hardly lets me do anything without me having to argue my way into doing it. So I sit alone in my room a lot, or get outside on my bike, feeling all alone. I have Asperger syndrome diagnosed by a psychiatrist, if that helps. Sometimes I feel like my real parents are either dead or rejected me at birth, but this family claimed me. I know my parents are biologically related to me, but this is how I feel. Does anyone know what this is and how I can respond to it?

Answer 1

I actually am glad you are not hanging out with the kids that to you may seem cool. There are better and more productive things to do than smoke pot and play XBOX 360.

I had a student with Asperger's Syndrome and I am sure he suffered a lot more than he let on.

I am wondering if you are still seeing a psychiatrist, because he/she can help you.

There are support groups for people with your diagnosis and perhaps the reason you are feeling rejected and alone have more to do with your symptoms.

Regardless, you do NOT need friends like the ones your brothers have.

Answer 2

Your parents are doing the right thing.  You might think that your brothers friends are cool but what they do now can get them hurt or damage their future.  You do not need to follow the leader.  Find your own safer path.  Ask your parents if you can join a club or something.  Cadets or Scouts.  You will met more wholesome kids to be friends with and learn to take part in life instead of waisting your time playing video games and smoking dope.

Answer 3

I think you need to make more friends and get out of the house more.

tell your mom that you think that even though you are autistic you feel like she's the one restricting your behavior, instead of your disorder.

tell her you want to see how it goes for a while and see if you can handle everything on your own.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are the only one of the kids that has turned out to be doing something right.  You dont smoke dope, your not a nerd at playing games all day, sounds like you got it going on to me.  Your parents have probably given up on the other kids but are hanging on to you since your the only one that has any sense.  Don't worry about the pot-head, nerd gamers and concentrate on what you want to do in life and put your foot forward and go for it.  Ask your parents what the problem is and they will probably repeat what I just mentioned above.Be glad that you are the person that you are.