Is this normal to hate school like i do?

Question

heres alittle about me, so you can tell me what i can do or whats wrong with me.........

i hate it, i dispise waking up in the morning, i dont like kids my age because they think theyre so great and everything they do is "cool", im paranoid that when someone looks at me ;i think theyre making fun of me even when theyre not. the group of classes im in, i have nobody, dont get me wrong i have my friends, but i never see them. lunch i am sitting with people whom i dont even know. i know i can make friends, but the people are completely not people i can be friends with, lets just say, everyone on my team are popular people and my goal is not being popular, my goal is getting out of school at 3:30. i mean school just started, im only 3 days into it. but please ,the thought of school agers me, i cry when i get home and theres no reason to because i have to deal with it. im there to learn, but the teachers whom i dispise, they make us do partner work- and i have nobody. the friends i do have have their own better friends they can be with. also.......i even have thought about resorting to killing myslef, i will never do this, but its been on my mind, im over that , but thats where school has taken me to thinking about, also i am dieng to drop out. i am dieng to just get out of there, and im only 13 , only in the 8th grade, and i can assure you a thousand reasons that staying there isnt going to make it any better. please help me out.

Answer 1

You have some of the exact same feeling I do about school. I am a year older than you, 14, and I can tell you that I am dreading nothing more than returning to school this year. Here are my reasons why using experiences from last year.

It was h**l. Horrible. My goal was also leaving at 3:30 It stressed me out to sickening limits. I was overworked and had little sleep the entire time. At times I had about 7 to 8 large assignments to do all within a 2 and a half week period. Homework was still expected from all classes on top of this. I had no idea how the teachers thought that 13 year olds could handle such a large and monotonous amount of work. The average time that I would finally get to sleep was about 1:30 AM, however I had far exceeded that average on many nights due to work. In five hours I was up again, rushing to get out the door seeing as I live an hour away from school. These weren't small assignments either. Not only did they involve pages upon pages of research, but often times scale models and a prepared presentation, memorized OF COURSE (sarcasm). I had no free time whatsoever, and as soon as I was home from school, I went straight to work. No free time, nothing. There was just no opportunity for it. We brought the issue of overwork up with the teachers several times during the year, but they would almost always dismiss the fact, giving us a simple answer of "I need marks from you guys so deal with the pressure." They didn't care. Because of the amount of stress that was placed on me, I doubt I learned much.

We were also treated consistently like babies by the teachers. If one person got up to throw something IN THE TRASH at lunch, we would have assigned seating for the rest of the year. And in two days we had it. Someone got up to dispose leftover food. That was it. When a kid in 6TH grade gets into trouble with another kid, the principle has to come to our class to give us a little talk on bullying, when we had nothing to do with it. One of the boy's bathrooms was also locked for the final quarter of the year due to a mess that several people agreed to clean up, but the principle would have nothing of it.

This year, nearly all of my friends left, and I now have only one. The rest of the kids are extremely immature or act like complete jerks and pets. Some play a stupid zombie game, sorry, "spleeners" where the objects is to 'remove someones spleen'. I never, ever wanted to play that, but half the boys in my class like it. And when they're not playing that, they're talking about getting killed or killing each other, and reacting to that in the hallways, I can't stand that at all. And there's one who won't stop talking about pandas and HSM! There are kids who are always bragging about themselves and their work. They think they're so much better than everyone else. One brought in a picture of his project and showed it to the teacher and, of course, everyone in the class. The funny thing is, all these kids seem to like me, but I just can't stand them. They need to grow up. There were only five girls in my class last year and this number as diminished to 3, and only one of them is worth talking to. One of them will kick you if you within a meter of her. So there's no one to look forward to seeing the next day.

The day I left I for summer break felt like 20 tons had been lifted from my shoulders, but what still hurt me was the thought that I would still have to return to this place in only three months time. My summer wasn't even that enjoyable, though. None of my friends called me this summer, or even told me when they were leaving. So I'm left to wonder if they really are my friends.

Sorry if this is so long, I agree; I wrote too much. But our thoughts on school are so similar that I had to tell you what I thought of it. In short: you are normal, in my eyes at least. And you should know that you aren't the only one who has such a strong opinion regarding school.

Answer 2

Ha ha. No offense or anything. We had a saying for people like you in the Marines. You know the ones that didn't want to get up, and grunted all day, and hated everything.

Actually we didn't, the C.O. came in told them to "GET THE **** UP" or they were going to shoot us in the ***, and cut our balls off, which they probably would.

So in other words, we all have to do stuff we don't want to. And maybe if you were more open, then you would like school.

Compare graduating with hating school, bad grades, no friends, don't like anybody, and hating life.

to...

Graduating high school, with loving that school is over, but you still had fun, great grades, a bunch of friends, a girl/boy friend, everybody likes you, and you love life.

Hmmm...

God get over yourself. Do what you have to, get on with life.

Answer 3

I think, out of everybody here, I can relate to you the most. I am also 13 (Shortly turning 14) and although I do not live in America, I assume 8th Grade is what we call Year 10.

I know exactly how you feel. My whole summer was wrecked just thinking I had to go back to the dreaded place. But at least you are lucky in one aspect; You have SOME friends. Seriously, you should count yourself lucky for that. I have "Friends". Some of the most bitchy and fake people you will EVER come across. My friends talk about stuff but i don't CARE its just like watching paint dry I just want to leave School.

I'm not sure if this happens in America I think you are in middle School? If you are, be happy you will be going to High School in a few years, getting away from old "Friends", maybe making some new ones that will make School much more fun. Unfortunately here, I have to stay in High School for 7 Years. The past 2 years have been the worst in my life. I've also thought about suicide but I also know I wont actually do it.

Listen, we have college afterwards. We have Work afterwards, Life will be SO much better once we leave School. I've decided I don't CARE about the whole popularity c**p any more. I'm going to study hard to be what I want, because In the end, the minute we leave High School, these people aren't going to matter any more.

Good Luck, I'm thinking of you :) xx

Answer 4

Well just look form my point u never should drop out of school because of people that u don't like or don't want to be around because in real life u have to be abound people to be able to live the life u want i know u only 13  but try to talk to ur teachers or anyone that u trust that will keep u going to school and just wait when u go to high school next year u will love it because is much different just try to hang with it okay and think positive

good luck  

Answer 5

no..it's not normal.

Answer 6

wow, thats deep, ...it is sooo not normal to hate something with such intensity...my advice to you is to talk to your parents and get psychological help, there might be something wrong up there...and if u dont take care of it now, later might be too late

also, if u hate school so much, there are schools where you can work faster and you finish in like half the time earlier, you do a whole year in just one semester, i think,  find out about that...don't drop out...think, what will you  do after that???

Answer 7

I think I know how you feel. 8th grade was my absolute worst year. Ever. I didn't know what I was going to do. I hated every single day I went to school. On the weekends I was fine though.

Personally, I find it normal.

My advice to you is to be more open-minded. Just because you're friends with someone popular doesn't mean you're going to become popular. I also think you should talk to someone, your call on who. Whoever you are most comfortable with. You need to make more friends. If your friends are ditching you for others in class then you shouldn't waste your time on them. You need to learn to not care. You're so wound up with emotions already that they're taking over your life, three days into school. Relax. You also need more confidence, which is where the talking with someone comes in.

It will get better if you are more open-minded. And no, it does not always get better in high school. But, again, it will if you are...say it with me....open-minded :) I promise you.

And don't drop out. That would be a really stupid and ignorant thing to do.

Endure it. I know you can. Many people have done it before you and many will continue to after. I hope I helped you in, at least, the tiniest bit. Good luck!!!!!