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Is this not totally redicuolus?

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my husband and i were living in the states (hes american i was in the process of getting my green card, still unable to work), he went and had an affair so i asked his permission to take our child back to canada where i can work and support myself...he gave me permission and its two months later, he just called me and told me he is going to get a lawyer and charge me with abandonment...uh hello?...what do you make of that?

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i don't get how can he charge u with abandonment if u have the child? s***w him! get some defense and charge him with adultery. b*****d(not u, him)
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DATS SO STUPID

kick his *** in court

and remind him bout the affair

dat idiot
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hes delusional and confused. let him try to press charges on you, your the rightful mother , and no one can take your child away from you he could maybe get visitation right but i doubt thats all he'll get from it. good luck
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Did he sign any paperwork saying that?????? Other than that, what were you relying on your good word against his? lol
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thats so idiotic. i see your point completely. he had an affair for petes sake! you should get a lawyer too, and kick his *** in court.
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what the heckk???
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He does not sound like a nice guy at all. Don't let him distract you from what you really need to do. Live a great life without him...you can do it girl!
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totally ridicuolus i think he is sorry for what he did, he is lost without you but he has to much pride to say it therefor he is finding ways to bring you close to him but he doesnt realise he is hurting you in the process
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Since when the f*ck do you need someone's permission to go to your house.

Seems good that this a*****e wants to divorce you, you could probably do better.

Is the kid canadian or american? Is it his kid?

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he is 'going to get a lawyer'? in other words, he has no lawyer....so whatever comes out of his mouth is fluff.
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Yeah, I agree with the people above me. HE is the one that cheated, and you left with your child to better yourself and the child.

Get a lawyer honey and kick some ***.

He could also be playing... and not telling the truth.
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The child was with him? If you have no proof of your mutual agreement, then he has a good chance of getting custody if divorce is your answer. He is the citizen and if your child was born here, he/she is US citizen as well. I'd get a lawyer right away. Is there any way you guys can forgive each other and stay together for the child's sake?
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Why he can charge you but if you even make it to court i dont think he will win, Usually the child goes to the mother in 90% of cases, plus he is the one who cheated. He gave you permession in the first place so i cant see the court not going in your favour.

Add: You even have written permission?! Well there you go! He is pretty much screwed. There is not much he can do now. Id get a lawyer but at the same time I wouldnt be to concerned!
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abandoment concerning your marriage or child? did you communicate while you were gone??? let him take you to court for a divorce based on abandonment and let him foot the bills for it means less out of your pocket and you get to stay in Canada. He can not charge you with abandoning your child though if you in fact had physical custody of the child... more then likely a court will grant you primary custody.

best of luck with it all
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Wait, do you have the child with you or not?

If you do it's not abandonment, and he can only charge you with custodial interference if there was a divorce decree stating he was the sole legal guardian.

If you don't have your child with you it is still not abandonment unless YOU had sole legal custody and left him with no contact for an extended period of time.

Sounds like your husband learned some big words and wants to try to frighten you with them. Don't give in, he doesn't have a leg to stand on.

EDIT: In case his meaning was that he would charge you with "abandonment" of HIM, again that is ridiculous. That is reason to file for divorce in the US, but it isn't a "charge". It's not illegal to leave your spouse without filing for divorce, and it won't have any bearing on the divorce proceedings. When you receive the paperwork you simply explain the reason why you left and "presto!" he is an adulterer, and you have all the power! ;)
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He is an a*****e. Well get a lawyer and defend yourself. I hope you can get this straight
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