Is this okay for my mom to do

Question

so my mom has a new boyfriend and everytime theres a new guy she gives all her time to him. shes been out with him since 8am and its now 10 at night. i mean its not like i dont have a life either but i have a younger sister who was home alone the whole day, i wasnt there cus i had to work. i mean even when she is home she spends the whole evening up in her room talking with him on the phone. and then she goes out for breakfast with this guy almost every morning, when she has never taken the time to sit down and have breakfast with my sister and i. its like she'll only put the effort in if her boyfriend is coming over, which i can understand shes single and wants to find someone, but i dont get why she has to make it like this.

i really think she needs to take a break from dating a new guy the second she breaks up with an old one. i just get so angry with her cus she doesnt listen to anybody, and always thinks shes right and everybody else is wrong. does my mom need to realize what shes doing or am just being selfish

Answer 1

Your mum needs to realize what she's doing and its not right at all :\

Answer 2

Your mom is the one being selfish. Ever since she chose to become a mother she should have been mother first and single second. Unfortunately this is not fun (I should know, I've been there) but it is necessary. Children cannot do for themselves what mom can do even if they are bigger. Children need the love and attention of mom. Your mom just needs to scale back the amount of time she is spending with her boyfriends. Maybe you could ask a family friend or family member to talk to you mom. Your mom may be unhappy or depressed and be running away from it and this is how she deals with it. Have someone check into it for you. And if nothing changes, just remember it's not your fault...sometimes what we learn from others is what NOT to do.

Answer 3

no you are not being selfish at all my mom use to do the same thing

so i know where you are comming from

you should tell your mom how things look from your point of view tell her how your sister was home alone and how something could have happend

if she doesn't listen to you then tell someone else like an adult that could possibly get through to her

good luck

Answer 4

No, you are not being selfish because it sounds like you are talking out of anger and sympathy for your sister, which is not selfish at all.

Maybe you need to go about talking to your mom in a different way. Do you yell? That would provoke denial. Talk to her in a serious, calm way and remind her that you only want to help and that you care about your family.

This experience will only you help you in your future with your own kids and love interests.

Answer 5

Your mom is acting like a teenager who is dating.  Teenagers can get away with some of that because normally they are still young and have few responsibilities. Your mom on the other hand needs to slow things down and realize that she has all the responsibilities.

Learn well and you will never be like that.

Answer 6

yeah she needs to realize it

youre more important than the new guy

because you are her daughter,

and you should be her number 1

Answer 7

your mother is very selfish and immature, she needs to realize that she is a mother first and if she cant see that then do what you can to help your younger sister

Good luck

Answer 8

Your mother is very, very immature.  Hopefully you'll learn not to be as selfish as she.