Is this okay or is it rude?

Question

Our ceremony is at a large botanical garden. We were going to sue horse and carriage as our transportation but the restaurant is a little too far and the horses they use don't like the roads. (but really what horse does? lol). Okay so I was thinking after the ceremony, we do our recessional and then me and my fiance take a 10 - 15 minute carriage ride around the park ALONE. no photog, no parents, no attendants. Just us, before the madness begins. then we come back, do our photos and head to the"party zone" (as we are calling our reception. lol).

Is it rude to take off for 10 min like this?

Answer 1

I don't see what's wrong with that. It sounds like a perfect idea and it sounds very sweet at the same time.  Maybe you should let people know you are going to be coming a little later because of that. That way people aren't waiting around wondering what's taking so long.

Anyway cute idea I love it.

Answer 2

it's a great idea! in fact, if i was having a wedding larger than 10 guests, i would totally steal your idea. lol.

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Answer 3

10-15 minutes to soak up your new marriage sounds fantastic to me!!!! It's not rude at all, as long as you're not keeping your guests waiting for hours as you rock the carriage so to speak. :)

I have been at a few other weddings when during the ceremony and recpetion the bride and groom were off on their own to take pictures, freshen up and change for the reception, etc. and no one ever seemed to find that rude.

It sounds like a fantastic wedding! I'm slightly envious!

Answer 4

I don't think so. I don't think many people are going to miss 10 minutes while to you at your soon to be husband it will mean a lot to have those few minutes alone. I think it's a great idea :)

Answer 5

I think that's a cute idea, a friend of mine who got married about 10 yrs ago did something like that, he and the bride jumped in a mustang convertible and did a few laps around the block and every time they came by the church people took pictures

Answer 6

Not rude, but your wedding night is suppose to be the first time you're alone together when you get married. I don't think it would hurt to defy convention and take a quick ride alone. Just make sure it's not too long of a ride, leaving your guests unattended for a long period of time might end in them leaving. Your pictures will take a while so please take that into consideration.

Answer 7

it is 100% ok

it's YOUR wedding.

i'd maybe let the photographer follow a little because you can get some cute candid shots on the carriage

Answer 8

Hi - not a problem at all! I did that on my day, exvept we walked round the grounds together. Have a lovely day - a year today I see!xx

Answer 9

No, that's a wonderful idea. In fact, at Jewish weddings, it's traditional for the couple to spend 15 minutes or so completely alone after the ceremony, just with each other - no family, no photographer. People expect the couple to leave briefly after the ceremony for photos and such anyway. They will head off to the party zone and you can have a quiet moment with your new husband in a romantic setting :)

Answer 10

I think it is a very nice idea BUT I don't think you have thought it through. The way you set up the question it would be rude to your guests if they are standing around wondering where you went.

If you depart like they do in movies, after the rice is thrown, jump in the buggy and go while the rice is still flying... would be good. They would assume you are going to the reception or to take pictures. All is good. But in your question you state you are going back to take pictures...  with who? Isn't everyone gone?  Is there another wedding going on? You need to think more about it. You could have the rolls pick you up at the park for a longer? drive in it.

Answer 11

I don't think taking 15 minutes for yourself is rude. Just don't take too long with the photos after, but that's a concern either way.  It is smart to have them head up while you do the picture thing so they are entertained. While you are on your ride, you can have people explain that the bride and groom would return for pictures, and they were free to head to the reception or view the gardens (if they want to head to the hotel rooms, I am sure they would realize they could fit it in).

You seem conscious of your guests, so I really don't think you will have a problem.  

Answer 12

Not at all, that sounds like the PERFECT way to detox! Just make sure your guests are taken care of at the reception before you arrive and don't have to stand around waiting for you. Drinks and appetizers would do the trick. You could send the guests on to the reception and have the bridal party and your families get their pics done (the ones without you in them) in the meantime and then when you guys get back just do the ones with you guys in them. It shouldn't take too long and you could always provide some dirnks at the ceremony site for the bridal party while they are waiting ( =

Good luck!

Answer 13

Its not rude as a matter of fact I love the idea!

Answer 14

Absolutely not and I think it's a wonderful idea. Enjoy your time together!

Answer 15

As long as the guests are attended to, kept entertained and drinks and appetizers are being passed and you are gone no longer then an hour or so including the photos after it should be fine.  

Answer 16

I think it's a fantastically romantic idea!

Answer 17

I think it sounds like a lovely idea! Just a few suggestions - I'd maybe do the photos including other people first, then they can go ahead to the reception venue and enjoy the pre-dinner fun, rather than waiting around for pics. Also, make sure that you have plenty of yummy hors doevres served as the people are waiting for you and your hubby to arrive - if the music is pumping, food is abundant and drinks are flowing, people will be able to relax and enjoy that time, while you and your hubby get some time alone.

Answer 18

No it's not rude...it's your day...you can do whatever you feel like like doing

Answer 19

This is your day.  Do what you want.  I think the carriage ride sounds like a great idea.  I don't think anyone would consider it rude.  You might want a photo taken just before you leave for the wedding "portfolio."

Answer 20

No, it'll be fine. It'll be great that your guests get to see you riding off into the sunset (as it were), and will also give a little bit of time for them to clear out before all the pictures begin (if your photographer is like me, they will really appreciate this!).  Plus, the photos ought to go a lot smoother and faster without all the guests hanging around trying to get their shots as well, and congratulate you over and over, etc.

You and your new spouse can capture a few rare moments to yourselves.  And probably not what you're thinking, but maybe even sneak in a snack or make up reapplication or whatever as time for these things will be at a premium.

If you are not taking the carriage to the 'party zone' how will you get there?  You can save some bucks by letting the horse and carriage go earlier than planned, but you'll still need to make sure you've got your transportation to the reception (and hotel if you'll be going to one afterward) lined up.

All in all I think it sounds like a great idea and wish we had had just a few minutes to ourselves at our wedding.  It's YOUR day, but if you don't do some things you want and make time for yourselves, it won't feel like it.

Congrats and Good Luck!!