Is this only immature, petty because she's "ugly"?

Question

There was this girl who used to harass me (gossip, make fun of my looks, scream at me, laugh at me) because I didn't keep up with my hair, although all the guys liked me...we were between 17-20 years old. No offense, but the first time I saw her, I thought she quite possibly had to be the most unattractive gal I'd ever seen. Think a black version of Tori Spelling.

Anyways, I thought it was so weird and ironic she was making fun of my looks with the way she looked, yet I never really retaliated. I changed my hair style, and when I saw her when I was 21, she was stammering and looked really scared, a far cry from how she used to act. She won't even look me in the eye anymore.

Is it immature if I see her to facetiously tell my equally hot boy friend that she used to make fun of my looks?

Answer 1

She probably made fun of you because she saw something in you that she envied.  Females are very envious, whether they admit it to themselves or not.  I think everybody gets bullied at some time in their life.  She knows she did the wrong thing by the way she acted toward you.  Yes, it would be immature to mention it to your boyfriend.  What difference does it make now.  You obviously look good to him.  Don't worry about it.  It's in the past.  Forget about her and the incident and move forward with your life.  Take pride in yourself and be glad you're not as petty as she is/was.

Answer 2

Oh God, a black version of Tori Spelling?!  The Tori Spelling we have is bad enough!  Another version of Tori Spelling of any race... LORD!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Extremely immature. She obviously had self-esteem issues and still does. You don't need to fan that flame. It's not something someone with a lot of character would do, is all i'm saying.

Answer 4

lol yes that is immature, but it will probably make you feel good for a hot second... I would just smile (fake obviously) and try to be nice... if she really looks like Tori Spelling she already has been punished

Answer 5

I know how you feel...I've been in the same boat.   People have called me fat, S****y, ugly, stupid, and tried to do anything in the world to make me feel bad.

Most likely she was cruel to you because she is insecure.   You said she is extremely unattractive, right?    Most of the girls/women who made fun of me weren't so beautiful themselves...but some people feel prettier and more special when they put others down.   They feel like it somehow hides the fact that they're unhappy with their own looks.  

It sounds like you've become confident and self-assured since then.   She obviously can't handle it.   She probably expected you to still be the shy little girl you once were...the one who took all her abuse.   It is natural to want to flaunt the "new you" and throw it in her face.  

I don't think it would be immature if you were to calmly tell your boyfriend in front of her that she used to bully you when you guys were younger.  You can tell him.  Just don't be like she was.   Don't be mean about it.  You're better than that.    If she says anything, tell her you forgive her.   Then move on.  

Obviously, you're the winner in this.   You grew up and turned out OK.  You have self-esteem and a boyfriend.   It sounds like she doesn't.   Remember that you cannot change the past.   She might actually be sorry that she was mean to you back then.   She is ashamed of her behavior...this is why she won't look at you.    

Answer 6

Yes it is immature. This girl obviously made fun of you because she

was jealous of you and insecure about how she looked. That is why

most people do it. Now you have had the last laugh. Let it be a quiet

one. She is now the one that is upset because she realizes how

immature and stupid she was and that is why she is embarrassed around you.