Is this really depression.. and if so.. how do i stop it.?

Question

15 years old- what do i have to worry about.

well lets see this one..

my brothers hate me < i mean hate

my dad wants nothing to do with me

ive seen mydad strangle my mum

my grandmas just died

i feel useless

im not pretty.. ><

urgh lots more.

And basically:

I eat loadz then i eat like nothing for a day

Im not sleeping lately. ha its half 1 in the morning!

im not going bed till about 5am.

I feel so useless

I feellike no1 wants me and everyones using me.

I get so angry quickly-i scare myself.

Im very very selfconcious

and i have trust issues.

ive slit my wrists before

ive had suicide thoughts

I dont give a **** about school.

is it depression? or am i being stupid?

If it is..i dont want to tell my mum.. because she must be already ashamed with me.. imagine then finding out that i did have it.,And shes proberly call me a hypercondriac anyway.

Help?

Answer 1

You have to realize that everyone...EVERYONE has issues.

NO SERIOUSLY.

Especially kids in high school. h**l, I&#039;m the same age as you and I&#039;ve gone through twice as much. You really don&#039;t sound that bad off.  

Answer 2

it is depression and iv gone through the same thing. i cut myself, i had eating disorders, i didnt want to live anymore, i smoked weed, it was HORRIBLE

i prob havent been through the sh*t yu have but iv been through some tough sh*t

but i made it  through all that sh*t

and yer strong not weak, no where near weak, with all the stuff yuv endured i hope yu can see that yu can make it through this

i do sports, dance, other hobbies now

thats what yu should do and live yer life to the fullest !

good luck ! =)

Answer 3

When you are 15,  the world can seem like a scary place. Problems can appear much bigger than they really are. The fact that you don&#039;t need your father who left you, suggests you are much stronger than you think you are. Try to find something to do when you are not at school. Even if you just go for walks with a friend. You are probably not sleeping well because you have all these issues going around in your head. Make an appointment with your doctor and speak to him/her about how you are feeling. Nothing is impossible to solve.

I am sure you are pretty, but because you are so fed up with things you wont see what others do when they look at you. No matter what life throws at us, there is always someone worse off. Just have a look at people around you everyday. Have a look at the news each night.

The best thing you could do is have a chat with your mum. I know you said you don&#039;t want to, but you will realise that your mum is your best friend, always. Tell her how you feel and ask her what she thinks you should do. She will be pleased you asked her.

Things will get better. It is only a matter of time. Someday you will look back and realise that some of the things you are worrying over are just part of growing up.  Good luck, you will be fine.  x  

Answer 4

i had the same problem...... ye except cutting my wrist. All teenager&#039;s will go through this in there life and they have to learn that they are the only ones piloting the plane. There are thing&#039;s waiting for you on the other end you just have to reach out and grab it. What i am trying to say is the only person that is going to stop you... is ... you.. you have to find your confidence by doing that try something new like going out places, force yourself to do thing&#039;s that you wouldn&#039;t normally do. Apply for a job make money. And i am sorry about your grandpa but it was his time to go, That should mean something to you should think of this as a strength for you to say you know what life doesn&#039;t last forever so im going to live life to the fullest. Like i said it&#039;s out there you just got to reach in and grab it.

Your only 15 your gonna have to learn how to deal with thing&#039;s like this it&#039;s going to get harder every day of your life but you need to learn how to say i will make it.

Good luck and take care ok?  

Answer 5

Go to therapy. If you&#039;re afraid of that because you&#039;re mom will find out about your depression then I&#039;d say that the best thing is to read as many books as you can on dealing with anxiety and depression. I would suggest The Chemistry of Joy to start with, but you have to listen to our own inner voice to find out what&#039;s best for you. If you&#039;re interested in a certain subject, hobby, etc., spending time on that can also lead you to practical solutions by helping you get closer to your true nature (but for the beginning, I mainly suggest reading books on anxiety/depression).

And don&#039;t forget that you&#039;re very lucky to identify your feelings as a consequence of the events that have happened in your life. Many people go on feeling this way for their whole lives, never questioning it or trying to change anything. They simply see it as an unchangeable part of their personality. The truth is that you don&#039;t have to feel that way. Obviously, anyone would get depressed under a lot of pressure, but the good news is that by getting back in touch with your true nature/feelings you can build a whole new life that many people take for granted.

So don&#039;t worry about the things that are out of your control, and remember not to blame yourself for the way you&#039;re feeling or the way things turn out. Just do your best and take advantage of every little opportunity. Many people have overcome their difficulties, so can you. Just stay committed to your goal, and little by little you will find ways to solve your problems.

Answer 6

Im gonna address each of the listed- (i kno its long im sorry, but i rly want to help you, email me if you need more help the email is on my profile)

[my brothers hate me &lt; i mean hate] - Your borthers dont hate you, im sure of it, unless they&#039;ve tried to kill you. My brother treats me like sh*t but i still stick it out. Are they older than you? im sure they&#039;re only teasing.

[my dad wants nothing to do with me]- You should tlak to your Dad about this if you can. sit HIM down and tell him how you feel about this. I know it may seem hard but when you gain snwers, it&#039;ll seem easier.

[ive seen my dad strangle my mum]-  Tell your mom to leave your dad, hes abusive. Im sure you care bout your mom more than your dad. Its best for the both of you.

]my grandmas just died]- im so sorry :( Think about the good times you&#039;ve had with your grandma, and think of what shed want you to do while your alive, she wouldnt want you to inflict harm on yourself or slit your wrists.

[i feel useless]- Your not Usless. I dont eve know you, and i already know that your not usless. Your important to your family. You dont go thorugh anything you cant handle.

i[m not pretty]- You might not think your pretty (but im sure you are!) But to some, maybe even many people out there you might just be the prettiest thing they&#039;ve ever seen. Have confidence in yourself, beauty isnt everything.

[I eat loadz then i eat like nothing for a day]- sign of  depression,. and plus; puberty! hah i do that ll the time, make that the least of your worries.

[Im not sleeping lately. ha its half 1 in the morning!]- lay in your bed and listen to music, it clears your mind and helps you fall asleep.

[I feel like no1 wants me and everyones using me.] - i can relate! but like i said, puberty! its our hormones giving us the most dramatic mood changes. Think positively.

I[ get so angry quickly-i scare myself.]- like i said, hormones and mood changes

[Im very very selfconcious]- Who ISNTself concious?

[and i have trust issues] Thats not ann issue, ive learned to trust no one but yourself....until you find that one person you know you can trust.

And aboutt he cutting and thoughts off suicide, Maybe you might want to see your doctor about [psychiatric doctor, not medical]

[I dont give a **** about school.] NO ONE GIVES A S**t ABOUT SKOOL! haha join the club!

and if this is depression? Yeah im pretty sure it is, but nothing last forever! I wish you the best :)

Answer 7

KARMA IS A  BEATCH!!!!!!  

Answer 8

listen caitie, i&#039;ve been really tryin baby, tryin to hold back these feelings for so long and if you feel like i feel baby, come on oh come on....lets get it on

Answer 9

it is depression and I&#039;ve been through a lot of things too. You just need someone to talk to. I am 15 too and I&#039;ve thought about commiting suicide and cutting myself.

You should talk to me my name is Danae&#039;

[e-mail] email me.

Your not alone. I go through a lot of c**p too. Like I said sometimes you need someone to talk to. Your not crazy, you just have a lot going on

Answer 10

Just do things that you like to do. A favorite hobby or such. it worked for me better than any of the anti depressents i had.  

Answer 11

This is depression, dear.

YOU have gone through so much normal and abnormal situations. My God child, I feel for you, dear. You are going through so much, and yet, you are asking on here. Yes, I would be depressed in your situation, too.

I pray that things get better for you and your family.

God rest the soul of your grandma.

Please go to a counselor right away. You have too much to handle, and believe me, it gets worse if you don&#039;t get help. God bless, you dear.

Answer 12

It sounds like depression to me, it&#039;s best to tell someone before it gets worse, I&#039;m seeing a physcoligist for my problems, but it&#039;s just getting worse.

Forget your dad- He&#039;s most definatly the biggest loser around.

My dad has hit me before, but not every day.

You need to let your mom know whats going on, if not her another trusted adult!

I&#039;m so sorry about your grandma too! I know how hard that can be! But rember- She lived a great happy life, and now she&#039;s in a great place watching over you!

I&#039;m going to give you the same information you gave me, you  need to see someone, get medication prescribed, life sucks hun, I know all about it, believe me.

Turn to adults though, not all can help, but some can, talk to a school counsler, a relitive, a friends mom.

Obviously, you don&#039;t trust men, I don&#039;t either, I don&#039;t blame you.

You&#039;l be okay, you&#039;ll get through tihs, it&#039;ll get worse before it gets better, and it&#039;ll takea while, but it&#039;ll get fixed!

I promise!

I&#039;m so sorry for your losses, and I&#039;m sorry about your dad!

Some people have said turn to a hobby you like- That didn&#039;t work for me, I lsot all interest in the world around me, you can try it, but it&#039;s not the greatest.

I&#039;m so sorry!

Answer 13

I&#039;m no expert but it sounds like you have depression. You really need to tell someone, like your Mum. Try calling the Kids Help Line for free on 1800 55 1800. You should never be ashamed to get help. There is nothing to be embarassed about. The sooner you get help, the sooner you can be happy again. You sound like a lovely person, especially since you spend time helping others. You deserve to be happy!

Answer 14

what you need to do is find yourself something fun and helpful to do (volunteering, etc) this will brighten up your life. you are doing good things for others which will make you feel better. and while your at it, talk to your parents about the choking and the fighting. they will assure you everything is alright.

ps. it isn&#039;t depression. god put us here on earth for a purpose. you just haven&#039;t found a purpose yet. im sure you will

:)

Answer 15

*hug*

im soo sooooo srry

its not ur fault

hey e-mail me

email me anytime

[e-mail]

Answer 16

Its ok. You may be depressed but you can get help. You need to talk to a doctor or a phyciatrist about this. If you do not feel comfortable with your mom knowing you feel this way, your school most likely has a free physciatrist and it is completely confidential. Good Luck  

Answer 17

um i did some research and i saw many things that related to your story..fatigue, thoughts of suicide, change in appetite, problems sleeping.... hey- it wouldn&#039;t hurt telling ur mom or whatever she says it cant be worse than what ur going through right? i&#039;m srry. u r not weak u r strong u have endured so much and have not let that pain overcome u, that requires strength-keep fighting it will pass  

Answer 18

I don&#039;t know how to help you since I can&#039;t physically. But the only thing that comes to mind is, that if you just take it one day at a time...you&#039;ll get to see another day, maybe eventually one of those days you&#039;ll find what&#039;s missing in your life. Be tough. Learn how to deal with the problems, cry if you must, get angry, but then just try to let it all go and get some sleep, and resume in the morning. Try whatever you must to get through. Don&#039;t give up. Somewhere someday, you&#039;ll be missing in someones life if you do. Maybe as a great mom, or someones soul mate. Who knows? Just know that a lot of people feel somewhat of you are feeling and just get through it. Or try. Part of living is feeling, feeling every emotion even the bad ones.

Answer 19

I have no clue what you have gone through, so far I know that it has been a lot. I hope you know that someone out there loves you. I know your not into god, so even if it&#039;s not god, SOMEONE LOVES YOU! Even though I don&#039;t know you so much I want to let you know that i love you. It may seem weird coming from a complete stranger but I think you need to know that. I cannot answer your question but i can be there for any support you need. There are people out there who devote there life to people who feel that way about life and they try to help them. I want you to know that.

I also think you should start each day thinking about the little things in life that mean something to you. You can think about anything, from you&#039;re favorite band to tv show, would you feel worse? What about the sun in the sky? The rain drops on your skin. The reason you are still here today. You are important to the world. One person can change the world, you may not agree but just dwell on it. Please. Just remember that the little things are what makes the big things better. You are 1 in 6.3 billion. You are here for a reason. but only you know what that reason is. I am sorry if I offended you but if you would please take my advice, that&#039;s what got me past my depression.  

Answer 20

depression is apparent in your nerval system, causing a lack of dopamine to flow through to your brain. you should not say your father is dead. then people feel sorry for him. say he is in a mental institude. you are indeed depressed. you must find a reverance of a sort. God is there to help you.

before using God&#039;s Word to assist you, here are a few things you can do to restart the dopamine flow to your brain. dopamine is a chemical in your brain that tells your brain you are happy. when little reaches your brain, you feel sad. when it totally stops, you basically are at the point of suicide.

to raise your dopamine level, eat only organic foods that have USDA organic emblems on it. and exercise daily. exercise is key to depression recovery. by moving all your blood around, dopamine begins to refollow its original path.

God is there. God gives His love unconditionally. no matter what you say or do to Him, He still loves you back. so its never to late to follow Him. for &quot;I have called you by name, and you are Mine.&quot; He is there always. just try and follow Him. He will reward you. as the beatitudes say, &quot;Blessed are the poor but spirit, for God&#039;s kingdom is there&#039;s&quot;; &quot;Blessed are the meek, for they shall rule the world.&quot;; &quot;And Blessed are those who are prosecuted for my Name.&quot;

God rewards those who follow Him to any extent with Heaven. unlike what thousands of religions have believed about their &quot;gods,&quot; God will never let it be too late. here is a passage straight out of the Bible:

&quot;You shall cross the barren desert,

but you shall not die of thirst.

You shall wander far in safety,

though you do not know the way.

You shall speak your words in foreign lands,

and all will understand,

You shall see the face of God and live.

If you pass through raging waters

in the sea, you shall not drown.

If you walk amidst the burning flames,

you shall not be harmed.

If you stand before the pow’r of h**l

and death is at your side,

know that I am with you, through it all.&quot;

let this advice get to you, espacially in a time of pain and suffering, when God is hardest to find. look for signs of God, and you will find some. many believe he does not exist. but there is evidence. for example, about 5 thousand years ago, according to Genesis, a flood came over and swamped the earth, killing all who were not on Noah&#039;s arc. on the arc were 2 of every animal, plus Noah and his family. evidentally, all the radio-carbon dating is very faulty after 5100 years. not only that, but the ice caps and glaciers are all the exact same age: 5136 years old. also, signs of boats and cities and technology appeared 5020 years ago. and the evidence goes on...

Answer 21

you really do need to talk to your mom. it sounds like more than depression to me. and it will only get worse if it is not treated. and trust me the worse is not something you want to even think about. i promise. now that being said: don&#039;t feel like you can help this. it is a sickness. yess sometimes your circumstances can contribute to it, but there is not anything that you can do or could have done different. so please talk to your mom or at least another adult that you trust. a teacher or someone. you at the very least need an outlet. i feel so much better just telling someone what i am feeling. even if i can;t change it after wards. just getting it out helps. and you may need some meds. this does not make you any less of a person. and i think it shows maturity asking for help.

in the mean time i would suggest reading this and really letting it sink in. i thought about it when i was reading your question so i thought i would share it with you. i have been diagnosed with depression for years and this scripture has helpedme more than anything else. i sometimes just read it. it helps me to really &#039;know&#039; that there is something bigger than me out there and He does know how i feel. and He promised that He would go with me even until the end. anyways, here you go:

Psalm 6

1 O Lord, don&#039;t rebuke me in your anger

      or discipline me in your rage.

2 Have compassion on me, Lord, for I am weak.

      Heal me, Lord, for my bones are in agony.

3 I am sick at heart.

      How long, O Lord, until you restore me?

4 Return, O Lord, and rescue me.

      Save me because of your unfailing love.

5 For the dead do not remember you.

      Who can praise you from the grave?[b]

6 I am worn out from sobbing.

      All night I flood my bed with weeping,

      drenching it with my tears.

7 My vision is blurred by grief;

      my eyes are worn out because of all my enemies.

Jesus will help more than anything, but absolutely tell an adult how you have been feeling. be blessed.