Is this relationship worth it???

Question

So I have known this guy for a very long time. His mom was my first grade teacher. Ever since high school I've had a crush on him. When he went off to college he was 4hours away and I was still in high school so our relationship was complicating. Communication was just way off, we would talk rarely on the phone or by email. He tells me how he feels about me and I just don't know what my feelings are for him. I do like him but I don't know if that's enough. Now he's in the Air force and is in Texas right now, he asked me to be his girlfriend but I kind of regret saying yes. My heart is telling one thing and my mind is saying another thing im just so confused. His mom passed away in July, so it's been really hard for him and I don't want to make him more upset. I just don't know what to do.

Because he's in the Air force I just don't see how our relationship is going to work. He is always going to be far away and I don't believe in long distance relationships. I have never committed to a guy I have always been a single girl. I just wonder when I go off to college I might find someone else I like but I would be tied down to someone who is not even around. I just want to see what else is out there but at the same time I really do like this guy, I'm torn and confused. Somebody please give me some advice because I really need it.

Answer 1

Tell him that you'll always love him and be there for him, but that you think that your relationship is not going to work; tell him that you just wanna be friends. Otherwise, you'll be miserable and feel restricted. I know he's going through a rough time and that's why you should stay close friends, but don't stay with him. Trust me.

Answer 2

it all depends on how you feel about him. it does not matter if you've always been single. Its normal for change to come in your life. you really need to sit down and have a good thought about it.

A long distance relationship is definitely possible. The important thing is, if YOU can deal with it. You need to have trust in order to be comfortable with the relationship.

Your choice should not depend on pity for him as his mum passed away. If you really love him and want to be with him, you wouldn't even worry about meeting other guys in college. If you do happen to fall for someone else, you'll both learn the hard way that you guys made a wrong decision. That's why it's very important to give it a proper thought.

hope this helps:)

Answer 3

You already know the answer.  It is not going to work.  He is in the airforce and after basic he is going to get stationed somewhere.  He will be gone for months and years at a time.  Explain to him that right now is just not a good time for the two of you to start something.