Is this resentment? If so, how do I handle the feelings of resentment?

Question

I have recently been played by my now ex-boyfriend who had lied and told me that he wanted to marry me and have a future with me. He told me the opposite a few days later and made me feel confused and let down( he cant marry me and that he would like to work things out with his wife). I was being mislead by him, and for him to say that he is a Christian makes it even more confusing if he did this to me. Does this mean that this is a sign of resentment and lack of trust? Does resentment involves a person telling you one thing, but then switch on you and tell you the total opposite?

Answer 1

You handle your resentment by letting this man go. It sounds like this man does not know what he wants in his life because he is not right with any woman in his world. He may be a user allowing you to think he was finished with his marriage to have his way with you and played on your emotions? You do not just tell someone that they see a future with you and marriage then turn around after a few days and then wants nothing to do with you and runs back to spend the rest of his life with his wife. Just because this man portrays himself as being a christian does not mean that he is a good one but only God can be the judge of that. He now wants to work things out with his wife and that is a horrible feeling for you that he built you up and made you care for him. I would move on in my life and try to forget him and avoid him at all cost because he is not worth this pain. You deserve better than that and realize that this man has some very personal issues that he gets help for.

Answer 2

What you are talking about is being mislead, but I totally agree with the first answer!  This is a married man!  He is obviously lying to more than just you; he is also lying to his wife & to himself!

Answer 3

You should feel resentment and the fact that he was married made it even worse. You should just move on and not let this even bother you not one bit. He wasnt even worth your time if he was already married and had planned on going back to his wife. It was a selfish act and something very foolish he did. God doesnt always be responsible for peoples decision, so  that was a bunch of mess for using his christianity as an excuse to break the relationship up. If he loved you that much, he will try to make the relationship work and get the divorse.

Answer 4

STOP.  One, he is not a Christian if he is cheating on his wife.  Two, you aren't much of a Christian, either, if you are helping him commit adultery.  Three, he got what he wanted from you (s*x, whatever), and now has decided that he likes his wife better.  

Where does resentment come in?  The guy got everything he wanted -- what is there to resent?  If I were you, I'd be resentful -- but I'd always be walking away very, very fast.