Is this s*x addiction... or is it much worse?

Question

I've got a problem either way...

I've been living with my ex-girlfriend who I love and adore for the past month... we broke up 2 years ago and she waltzed back into my life...

Things are going well, but we're not dating. I know it sounds like I'm being used, but I'm not.

Since we're not dating, things aren't like they used to be.. In public situations we both show that we're single so that the rumor mill doesn't spin out of control (we live in an apparently small city where everyone talks c**p).

That's fine with me most of the time but seeing as how she's my ex, I feel as if there should be something more.

We have had casual s*x since she came back so I thought things were going to be O.K. ... however it only happens when we're both intoxicated and feel the need to suppress our primal urges.

The other night I felt the need again... but she was very intoxicated... and now I feel like a creep... because while she was in la la land i felt the need to start touching her. And the more I touched her the more I wanted... eventually I broke down and had s*x without consent with her...

The only reason I did it was the more I touched her the more she subconciously respdoned to my touch. She seemed to be enojoying it but she was half-asleep...

We were both intoxicated. when I was done I felt like the worlds biggest creep. Its killing me to know that I've done something this bad and this wrong...

The sad part is this isn't the first time I've done something like this...

When I'm laying next to a girl I feel these urges that I can't control... and when I snap out of my delusion... I feel disgusted that the thought even crossed my mind.

I don't want to do this again and I think I need some serious help. I don't want to be a sexual predator or a creep and I'm scared that this will ruin what my friend and I have.

Please help

Answer 1

Believe it or not,a s*x addict isn't typically someone who's addicted to s*x,but someone who's addicted to the thrill of s*x with a stranger.

You're not a s*x addict,and there's nothing actually wrong with you,you just have trouble controlling yourself,I do to,but no so much in a sexual way.I would definetly say see a psychiatrist,or psychologist or something before it gets out of control.

Answer 2

Just talk to her about be honest... Ur a human being... Yes no consent equal rape but just talk to her, You were in the wrong but you have to fess up

Answer 3

i would talk to ur ex see if she wants to get bk together with u like if she feels the same way

Answer 4

what you did is rape. no matter how you jazz it up its rape, plain and simple.

Answer 5

Urges aren't wrong. Acting on unethical urges is. If you think you've wronged this person, tell them what happened. It doesn't sound (based on what you've said here) that she would be all that upset with it. If she is - an apology seems a little weak, but it's better to be upfront.

Sexual arousal being around someone of the opposite s*x is perfectly natural. We use our brains to prevent us from doing lots of things.

If it bothers you that much, maybe just go to a preliminary counseling session and see if they think you have a problem.