Is this sexual harassments?

Question

I can't get good answers in law section. I was told to stop bitching. So I'm posting this here.

I was talking to a fellow female intern at work. I was merely complimenting her on her wit and knowledge. Then she responded that "believe me, I want what you have so much more" and I'm like "what is that?" She leans over and whispers into my ears "your -the word for female genitalia-."

I was totally creeped out. I was embarrassed and felt verbally violated. What should I do? This just happened on Friday. Haven't even had time to process. I'm new to this job. Should I report her?

Answer 1

do what you think is right

Answer 2

So is she a he?  Or just plain ugly?  I'm  with you this was out of line.  Maybe that was her way of telling you how pretty you are.  Since you just started this job, i would wait to see if it says anything else sexual.  If so most definitely report it.  Don't give it a compliment anymore. What a fricking weirdo

Answer 3

Well it sounds like sexual harassment to me.  It was a sexual comment in the workplace that embarrassed you and made you feel uncomfortable.  In fact, you used the word violated, which indicates how strongly you felt about it.  

This woman needs to learn that the pick up techniques she uses in bars are not appropriate in the workplace and are very offensive.  I do think you should report her.  If she hasn't learned yet that there's a code of conduct in the workplace, then she needs to find out as soon as possible!

Answer 4

First give her a warning.  If it happens again, report her.

Answer 5

My guess is that she's not really a she, but a he.  

Answer 6

No its not "sexual harassments" either singular or plural.  

Its your word against hers; there were no witnesses.

There is no established pattern of such behaviors you can point to.

She has no power over you because she is only a fellow intern.

Did you tell about the inappropriateness of her comment?

You are a recent hire and if you go to your boss straightaway you will make yourself look like a loon when she denies ever having made the comment.

Don't talk too much at work.  Keep your mind on your job.  If her behavior assumes a pattern, then you can complain about it.  For now, it remains a one-off.

Answer 7

it is harassment but you can fight it. i cant gaurentee anything can happen but talk to your manager or boss one that is a female. or you can get a lawyer if your company doesnt do anything and fight either the company for not doing somthing or the person who said that. although i cant gaurentee anything good will come out of it and immidately.

Answer 8

Oh, my goodness.  People give such ignorant responses.  It is not necessary for someone to have power over you for it to be harassment.  Unwelcome sexual advances from anyone at work can qualify.  You need to make it clear that you are not interested.  You need to document all of your encounters in writing.  Tell someone you trust who can back you up if needed.  If it continues, then report it to your supervisor, or if you feel uncomfortable with that, to your human resources department.  They will take action.

Answer 9

No just let her know next time she says something. That could get very nasty. This isn't something you can't handle yourself. If she says it again let her know it makes you uncomfortable and if she doesn't stop you are going to report her.

Answer 10

"My guess is that she's not really a she, but a he." ROFLMAO.

Anyways, now that that's out of my system...I would first study her from afar and see if she is the type that jokes around and stuff.  If she seems like a very serious person, I'd report her, but I'd try to gather all this information quickly, so that you don't end up reporting her like a month later.

But don't spy either.

Answer 11

Maybe she made a mistake and thought you were g*y. Let it go.