Is this situation ok?

Question

My fiance and i are either getting married on July or December but we are getting married at a church and then the reception hall we like is one hour and 30 minutes away. There will be older people attending. Is that ok?

Answer 1

that's fine.  If there is anyone who it is too far for they will just go to one or the other - most likely the reception

Answer 2

thats perfectly fine, but for the older people attending, let them only attend your reception only. You don't want to loose your wedding guests between your venues, so if it's possible, try to arrange a shuttle bus or some type of transportation for some people. I know it sounds ghetto, but an hour and a half drive to eat some cake is a little too far and you'll loose your guest. If you put together something for your family and friends to travel together, they would have a lot of fun traveling together rather than them traveling alone.  

Answer 3

It depends.  Can the older people get rides with some other relatives or family friends?  That way, they don't have to drive.  

Normally, they say that you shouldn't ask guest to drive more than 1 hour from the ceremony to the reception.  However, how great is this reception site?  If you are really going to through a fabulous party with all the trimmings, I don't think people will be too upset that they drove all that way.   If you're serving cake and punch for 2 hours, people might be upset that they were asked to drive all that way.

I know you aren't suppose to think of weddings in terms of "wowing" your guests.  But, if you are going to ask anyone to drive almost 2 hours to get to a reception, it better be worthwhile.  If not, pick something a lot closer.  

You don't want guests saying, "The drive was too long and really out of the way."  You want guests saying, "Yes, it took a while to get there, but it was worth it.  Very lovely reception and well worth the drive."

Answer 4

That's fine. I believe the etiquette is the reception hall should be no longer then 2 hrs. away from the church/ceremony place. People could car pool.

Answer 5

That is fine. People could car pool if someone doesn't want to drive. And furthermore, if someone doesn't want to drive, they can go to one and not the other. =:)

Answer 6

i think that is too far apart. most people will attend one or the other. for your guests comfort you should consider finding a different reception hall or church. consider having the ceremony at the reception site. with the rising cost of gas you really need to keep travel time in mind, remember that your guests will also be traveling to get to the ceremony and home from the reception so your asking your guest to travel at least 5 hours that day.

Answer 7

It's ok, but be prepared that some folks will choose to attend one without the other (i.e., either just the ceremony or just the reception). I'm not old, but I would pick one - it would be too tiring to sit through the ceremony, then have to drive for an hour and a half, and then participate in the reception.

Answer 8

i personally think that's too far to ask people to drive. but i guess it's fine. if people don't want to drive that far, they'll just have to attend one or the other.