Is this some kind of ignoring? or wat is it? I am just sick about it!?

Question

I am working in dubai in a office and with me another philipino guy is there. By the way i am an indian. about 4 filipina girls are coming here selling breakfast and lunch, but everytime, they ask with the filipino only and they never ask me even once that whether i need or not.

so i would like to know that whether filipina ladies or gents think that Indians are not upto the level of them or something like that? i am just curious why it is happening?Do they judge Indians a little bit below them? or wat? Any answer will be received with thanks, i am really feeling bad with it!!

Answer 1

All the answers on here are just backing each other up because their Filipino. What is probably happening is that you look a certain way to them. It's common sense really, they come in and you may not look approachable because you might have a mean look on your face and look like you don't want to be bothered, busy, and much more. Another possibility is may be your Filipino coworker has said something to them in their language that you don't know about. May be your coworker said to them that "you don't like to be bothered and besides you don't eat that type of food and if they ask, you might get offended so to be safe just ignore him." But you never really know unless you ask for yourself. You should just be more friendly and more approachable. You should smile, wave, look interested and offer something to them also. It's the human reaction we live based on image. So make yourself have a friendly image.

Answer 2

Kuttan I am sorry if these girls are being rude to you. But I hope the Filipino guy is nice to you.

so you would like to know that whether filipina ladies or gents think that Indians are not upto the level of them or something like that?

this would depend on their upbringing, some are simply ignorant about race and have biases about Indians in general, based on the cultural stereotypes about Indians that prevail in the country and are continued to be propagated by local media here.

There are the stereotype indian jokes - Indians smell like curry, Indians like to carry umbrellas and are loan sharks. Indians are associated with a local nursery rhyme "Indian pana kakana kana" But I think this nursery rhyme has more to do with American Native Red Indians. But is referred locally in the Philippines to Asian Indians

anyhow I am just trying to explain the whole stereotype here, I'm sure there are filipino stereotypes too that abound like we smell like fish sauce, etc. I'm just trying to clear it out. Maybe everything's not really what it seems.

I would suggest you talk to a Filipino friend if you have one and ask him, to ask these girls if they have a problem with you because you feel offended by some of their actions. It could be a cultural difference too like they aren't doing this deliberately. Filipinas are generally shy, maybe they are too shy to ask you if you want to have breakfast. Maybe you are just handsome and you look like Shah Ruk Khan =)

Or maybe in some way you did something that offended them that you're not aware of. Talk it out with management, the HR to bridge this cultural gap.

Answer 3

Hi Kuttan.. Usually, Filipinos stick with their own and not because they look at others differently.. They probably assumed, which is usually right, that other non-Filipinos wouldn't like to eat Filipino foods plus they probably want to keep it in a low profile because your company might have policies against peddling in the company area.. They know its less likely that Filipinos will tell on them because they wouldn't be able to get that convenience of tasting their native food away from home..

I do think though that it is wrong for them to not offer you but I think that its because of the reasons above.. Since they are in a different country, they should be more diverse and be more open to everyone. Even if they are in the Philippines, they shouldn't alienate other people. I suggest that you make the initiative to ask them that you also wanted to get some.. Once you get familiar with them then you will be a regular.. It's just a matter of opening up and having the initiative if the other end is lacking..

Answer 4

I think because they're shy to ask you if you'd like to buy and maybe they think you don't like the food they sell and for sure that is filipino food mainly filipinos love to eat. Why don't you try to approach and ask them what they sell and if you make them friends you will see they are not what you think they are.. Mostly, first impression is totally not true.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear that. I agree with most of the contributors here. Filipinos are generally nice. There may be factors in which they aren't offering those to you like culture, religion, belief, time, availability, etc.

Don't listen to Datu Marinero...just a racist b**tard. =c

Cheers to you sweetie!=D

Answer 6

i agree with these three above me.

those three girls could not offer you the food they're selling because of the type of food we usually have. next time they come, you might as well be the one to approach them. if they're not friendly enough, it woudln't hurt if you do. then see if you have something you like from what they're offering.

Indians and Filipinos are at par in many aspects particularly in speaking English, even in the kind of profession still most Indians could do the jobs Filipinos have.

  

Answer 7

I doubt it has anything to do with you or your ethnicity....

It is natural for people to gravitate to fellow countrymen...... and even MORE natural for women to prefer the attention of men to other women......

You are being hyper-sensitive....taking it too personal.... I think they are behaving badly but not out of prejudice..... just lack of empathy

Answer 8

I think these Filipina women aren't offering you anything because they're afraid that you won't eat pork adobo, dinuguan or basically Filipino food. My dad once told me that Indian people like they're food with spices and not sugar. But Filipino people LOVE sugar in their food like the longganiza for instance, I love it but its insanely sweet. The Spanish people also have longganiza but its not as sweet as the Filipinos. Also, their Spaghetti has hot dogs and lots of sweet sauce unlike the Italians, their spaghetti has tomato sauce and meat balls.

Also, most Filipinos are unusually shy and modest people. For instance, when they go abroad they usually find fellow Filipinos to help them especially when they're new to that country.

Also, if you want those Filipino people to be friendlier, why don't you try saying a simple 'Hey what's up?' to them, maybe they'll start talking more. Plus, maybe you can offer them some Indian dishes (but I would suggest to lessen the spices since most Filipinos aren't used to spices) & maybe they'll offer you Filipino food, that way, it will be a good trade! :)  

Answer 9

Let me tell you two reasons why they would offer food only to fellow Filipinos:

1. These foods are Filipino food. To Indians, it's rather bland and the lack of chili makes it more unappetizing. The only Filipino food I know appreciated by other nationalities is ADOBO.

2. They would cook PORK. Indians, Hindu and Muslim alike don't eat pork; the former rarely and more likely vegetarian.

Don't think they are ignoring you. Why don't you ask them some time? They would tell you why not or would gladly offer you if it is permissible for you to eat.

Answer 10

Basing it from my experience of being called an aloof Filipino myself, although Filipinos speak English fluently (for the most part), they're not going to put themselves in a situation were they have to speak it a lot IF there's an opportunity to speak with someone else in their native language. I have since taught myself to have fun speaking English, and think that an opportunity to speak it, is an opportunity to improve yourself. Unfortunately, not everyone is of that mindset.

I'm sorry you have to go through that, but I suggest you initiate the conversation with the ladies, probably by asking about their merchandise, and preferably not when they're talking to each other in Filipino.

Answer 11

Try to do changed your clothes every day, 2nd may be your are wearing a (Badoy Style) of clothes, may be your clothes are not made by famous garments maker in the world.

Take a bath at least once a day, don’t eat a lot of onion so that your smell goat will be avoided.