Is this statement that my husband made something I should get upset about?

Question

I went to lunch with my husband and some of his coworkers today. I, admittedly, walk a little slow and was getting something to drink before we left the pizza place to go back to work. All of them were in the car by the time I got outside. My husband met me at the door and said, "Gee, could you walk any slower?" I got a little offended, but he said he was just joking. My husband and I are having issues, so sometimes I take what he says a little too seriously. Is this something you would be a little offended over?

Answer 1

I would only be offended if he used it in a rude tone. Otherwise, just take it as a joke. Taking little things like that too seriously can also damage your relationship.

Answer 2

No, he was just in a hurry to get back to work.  Why don't you just pick up the pace a little when you know he is waiting.

Answer 3

Girl, if this is the harshest thing he's said to you, you have nothing to worry about!  If it were said to me, I wouldn't be offended by it.  Learn when to pick your battles.  This obviously isn't a wellfounded one.  I've made this compliment to hubby gobs of times...he just grins and walks even slower.  lol  I'm sure he meant nothing by it.

God bless you, Hon!

Answer 4

ummm...no! you said yourself you walk slow. thats all i would think about it.

Answer 5

no. You admit you were walking a bit slow. Not only was he waiting for you, but his coworkers as well. You're taking that too seriously.

Answer 6

you know you walk slow, so what's the problem. i think you're just being touchy. and there is a difference between walking slowly and everyone being in the car by the time you get outside. if it's really htat big of a deal to you, speed it up!

Answer 7

no, he had every right! Who are you to make him and all his coworkers wait? Even if he was joking, seriously, walk faster! That's rude~!

Answer 8

If my hubby asked me that question, I'd simply say "I sure can!" and then slow down even more...that's just me!

Answer 9

haha no you shouldnt be offended by something your provoking, seriously. if your having problems sounds like your looking for conflict some ppl like to argue and get into it a lil bit. if thats not it hurry up.

Answer 10

Nope. Don't get so upset over little things. If he embarrassed you, tell him later when you are alone. Blessings.

Answer 11

I would have been apologetic. If you know you walk slow you should have gotten your drink before they all decided to leave, instead you waited until the last minute and let him and his co-workers wait on you. To me you are the rude one, not him for mentioning it.

Answer 12

No I wouldn't get offended at all. He was just being sarcastic and was probably only joking about it. I say the same thing to my girlfriend and she responds, "Geez could walk any faster...a$$****" It's all in fun...don't take any offense to it.

Answer 13

It is all in the tone of voice...however if you couldn't tell he was joking right away then I would say he did it wrong if he was joking.  Personally as a husband I would have been more concerned about if you were ok or if you needed help with anything.

Answer 14

I would only get a little offended, just like you are. he shouldn't talk to you like that infront of his coworkers though, thats rude.

Answer 15

That was pretty rude and inconsiderate. I'd be hurt. You ought to say that you don't appreciate that kind of talk at all especially in front of other people. Seems like it was pretty embarassing for him to say that in front of his friends.

Yes, It's NOT ok for him to say that. you're well within your right to feel hurt.

Answer 16

You should not have gotten offened.  I am fast pace and my fiance is slow...it gets on my nerves and I ofen make that comment to him.  No fuss over it b/c he know's he gets in no hurry for anything!  

Answer 17

Nah pick your battles. I would've been annoyed too, but it's not worth getting in a fight about.

Answer 18

Nope! I would be offended by the tone of voice more than what he said. If he shouted it or gestured when he said it, the answer would be yes but since they needed to get back to work...you were the problem!

Answer 19

There is no reason for you to take offense.  You were walking slow and you forced them to wait on you (they were already in the car) and they probably needed to get back to work.  Actually, I would probably be annoyed with your actions, too.  It's one thing if it was just him, but you made his coworkers wait, too.  He had every right to make a smart butt comment.  

Answer 20

Personally, that was a lack of manners on your part.  You were in the company of your husband and his colleagues - you should have stayed with the group and not called attention to yourself in this way.  Most any normal person would have been annoyed with you.  

Answer 21

My god I'm sure he was kidding,don't take everything so seriously.

Answer 22

my husband always leaves me 20ft behind, that's when i get upset

Answer 23

I always dislike sarcasm, and I think you have a right to be a little upset over a little sarcasm.  A little.  

Answer 24

No, I don't think so.  It's too petty to be called offensive.

Answer 25

Stop and look at this from his perspective for just a moment. He was probably feeling embarrassed that everyone he works with was waiting on you. So he tried to make light of it by making a joke at you about walking slow. At the time, he didn't even think about how you would respond and it was probably even further from his mind that it would hurt your feelings.

He didn't know it would hurt your feelings, but it did. While technically this is a small problem, it is still a problem that needs to be addressed. You need to enlighten your husband. Tell him that it makes you upset whenever he makes fun of you. Don't get into an argument about whether or not you're justified -- just say that's how it makes you feel. Some people can handle jabs like that, and some people can't. That's just who you are. If he's a good husband, he'll make an attempt to not do that again, because he'll care about you enough to avoid hurting your feelings. Forgive him if he slips & forgets & does it again -- we're all human & bound to make mistakes. Some people get in the habit of making little jabs like that, so it's hard to break out of it. But keep reminding him that this is important to you, and just like anything that is important to him, you want to be listened to and respected.

Answer 26

Yes, it would have bothered me too, maybe it didn't mean anything by it.  Just tell him how it made you feel and tell him to please never do it again. Next time, you won't be so forgiving.