Is this stupid behavior on my part?

Question

My husband left me and now lives with his mother. When I get angry at him I call up his mom and bawl her out and complain about my husband. She says I "make her tired" and flit back and forth with wanting my marriage to get back, to wanting a divorce. Is this bad? I don't have anyone else to talk to, really.

Answer 1

Very immature and selfish behavior that's for sure!  If my sons wife called me to whine and blame me for anything my adult son did, I would tell her she needs to learn respect for her elders, and that when I saw her again, she had better duck for cover - fast.  NO WAY would I sit there and take any lip from anyone, especially someone half my age!  Once people reach a certain age, they are no longer any-ones responsibility - AND, YOU married him - not his Mother!

If you do not have anyone to talk WITH (not to), then I suggest you buy either a huge diary or get alot of paper to write on.  It really helps to figure out what happens in your head when you write it down and then go back and look at it again.  You will be able to see patterns and figure out WHY you are flaky in making a decision about your marriage.  

In my humble yet experienced opinion, you do not leave him because you fear being alone.  

Answer 2

Don't call his mom. No mother wants to hear what a loser her son is.

Answer 3

yes i think it is kinda bad. The last person you want to go and complain about your husband to is his parents. They may say things that may support you but deep down that's still their child and of course they want what ever;s best for their child. Especially if you are calling his  mother saying the same things and she's responding to what you are saying with the same comments. Its going to become old really soon and she might not wanna even talk to you about anything concerning her son

Answer 4

You have already answer your own question you are acting stupid. Now the real question is are you going to grow up and begin to  make an adult decision  about your life.

Answer 5

Well you married a mommy's boy, what were you thinking, didn't his obsession with your b*****s give it away!  He is still attached to the cord, you can't win, be great full you do not have any kids between you.

Get a lawyer, and a divorce, your more woman then that little kid could handle

Answer 6

is that bad? yes, thats rotten! make some friends, something...leave her out of it.

Answer 7

he lives at her house , she does not need to hear why you couldn't live with him she knows. I kept watching my old wedding video tiring to find the place where the preacher said "do you promise to take this man and raise him as his mom would have had you not come along," I couldn't find it , so I divorced him. Don't call mom she already knows what he is like she was just wishing you were the one to finish raising him .  

Answer 8

u need to call 1 800- eat-****