Is this the right thing to do??

Question

Im 8 1/2 months pregnant, I always worked 2 jobs up until last week, because of my horrible sciatic pain now Im only working 1 for now. Well we rent an apartment and my M-in law lives with us because he says shes old bla bla bla (63 years old) anyways she doesnt pay a cent neither does she work. So the rent is $1100.00 and I give him $500.00 every month, but Im worried because now that I will be out of work when I deliver my baby I will still have to pay him rent! He only has one job and makes $30 an hour, with 2 days of his job is like one whole week of my work. Besides he doesnt want to look for another job. Im going to be broke when i come back from maternity leave!!! do you think this is fair? and when i go back to work i dont want to work as much as I used to because I want to spend time with my baby.

Answer 1

I presume 'he' is your partner?

He doesn't want to look for another job? Even though you, his pregnant wife, have been working TWO jobs HEAVILY pregnant? And even though he is shacking up his mum in there as a freebie? That is not on. You're going to be having HIS child - what a lot of guys don't realise is that parenthood IS a full time job, just a generally underpaid underrecognized one. You need to really jam this into him. If he still doesn't get it then simply refuse to pay him the rent while you are out of work. If his mum can stay there as a freebie (and I'm sorry but 63 is NOT that old and feeble in this day and age! Is she not receiving a pension?!) then the bearer of his child can for a while! What can he do? Chuck you out on the street? Well if he did that he will kiss goodbye to you and the baby so I'm sure he won't.

Edit: the girl hit the nail on the head when she said families don't pay each other rent money. I am in no position to judge you because I don't know you - but a husband and wife (or live in partners, whatever you are) - should become one. It shouldn't be about your individual contributions. You should be a joint team with pooled resources and split effort. ESPECIALLY if you are having a child together. His money should be yours and yours should be his. And the normal practice within a family like this when the woman takes time off to have a baby is the family accept they won't be as well off for a while and make restrictions. It shouldn't be about 'well you owe me this and I owe you that'. You should be one unit, not a group of individuals.

Answer 2

not at all she needs to pay as well. even if it is his mommy. You pay and your his wife!

Answer 3

If it's your husband he should be supporting you after all its both your baby so if your off work he will just have to figure out how to pay the bills like all the other husbands in the world whether that mean he do some overtime or go without things.

As for mil..my mums that age too and she looks after herself without working just fine..she should be contributing something even if its cleaning the house or cooking dinner..

is it possible to rent a cheaper apartment at all or cut costs in other areas..maybe just adjust your current budget and start living off 1 wage now to get used to it? Because no its not fair and i agree you should be able to not work as much so you can spend time with the baby afterall a child will remember the good times with his/her parents not the material possesions they had

Hope it works out :)

Answer 4

ummm...no? so you are doing all the work, and he is doing...sweet eff all. families dont pay eachother rent monies! why is your b/f being such a jerk?

Answer 5

Okay, this kind of confused me...your husband makes you pay rent, your mother in law lives with you and doesn't, and he expects you to have his baby and pay rent while you're out of work? That's what I got out of this, and if that is the case than that is F*cked up. Bad.

This is his baby just as much as it is yours, he needs to help you out here. Work until you can't any more, and from that point until you can go back to work he should help support you in any way possible! Also, if you two  are married, than why do you split the rent? You should put any money you make together and work TOGETHER. That is what a marrage is about...

Not, okay, you live with me so you pay everything half. If my mom and step dad tried doing that...no bueno. Nothing would be paid.

To everyone else:

She didn't say he's not making anything. He's making $30 an hour. She was stating how he's making more in two day than she make  in a week, and yet she's still having to pay rent after having a baby.

Answer 6

no thats not fair his mother lives there so she needs resosibility aswell,. he should have a better aying job not fair for you to do it all