We have been married 13 years. We have 3 younger children. He works full time, I work part time. I take care of the majority of household chores (laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, yard work, cleaning up after family dogs and cats, washing dogs, walking dogs, household repairs....most of everything). My husband averages 1 hour per day playing playstation hockey and another 1 hour per day working out. He will brush the kids teeth if I ask him in the evening. For the most part I do it all and he will agree with this. He doesn't like me to mow the yard but 3 weeks of growth in the summer and I can't stand it any longer...and the HOA has a fit. He has done the laundry, all of it, one time in the past 9 months with the encouragement of our marriage counselor and has not done it since that time. Thanks in part to his spending habits we have now filed bankruptcy as well. My question? Is this the typical marriage? I am considering a separation again (he just moved back in about 3 months ago). I just don't know if this is typical or if there is more out there. Is this how men typically behave? Cranky to the kids, rarely play with the kids, won't cook-order out only, plays hockey games, will not clean house-period...I am just heartbroken because I wanted things to work out but I can't keep being a 100% partner when he puts in the bare minimum. He works a very easy job according to him so job stress is not in the picture. He thinks I am no fun because I won't smoke pot and do X with him...but that is not the mom I want to be. I don't drink or do drugs. He has no complaints in the s*x dept. as I am a very sexual person and we both are very happy in that area.
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