Is this too soon for us to get married??

Question

Alright i just turned 18 last weekend and my boyfriend is 21. He has been talking about getting married in like 2 years and him going the airforce and settling down with me. We have been only dating for like 6 months and like we are very happy. But i dont know about it because he has a really S****y job and i do too because i just graduated high school and i am going to college. But he never went to college and i am afriad that if he changes his mind about going the airforce then he wont be getting paid enough to support us. Not that money is all but i want to feel safe with the amount of money i have when i get married for children and such. but is it too young to be getting married. even if i feel like he is the one for me?

Answer 1

I think so. Your only 18! You haven't even went to college yet. And you've only been dating for 6 months. You have to expirence more in life before getting married and having children. Go to the places you want to go. See the things you want to see! Then get married. He may feel like the right one to marry, but you have many years ahead of you.  

Answer 2

The only reason he wants to marry you really quickly is because he's going into the Air Force.  Being married he'll get paid more and once he's done training you can go live with him.  However, I fully believe that you should go to and FINISH collage first.  IF you're complaining about having a crappy job now because you just finished high school, you can plan on keeping that kind of job for the rest of your life unless you go to collage.  I got married when i was 23 right before my husband deployed (We had been together for 2.5 years and knew each other for 5).  I have a collage education AND full time job and we're both well off.  But not that he's deployed and I've been on my own for the past 9 months, I've learned to realize that I got married way too soon.

Answer 3

i think you should wait and finish college. if he is the one for you he will understand if you tell him you want to finish college and get a good career.

Answer 4

Yes, I think it is too soon.  You just have to look at the statistics.  The odds of divorce rise significantly for every year under the age of 21 that you are when you get married, and the divorce rate is several times higher if you get married in less than two years of knowing each other.  That is not to say you don't have a future together, but why not do everything you can to ensure success by waiting until you are sure you are ready?

Answer 5

You've only been dating six months.  And guys who go into the military tend to want to get married sooner than they should and a lot of those marriages end in divorce.

You need to graduate college and get a stable job before you get married.  I think it's good for everyone to spend at least a year living on their own, being independent, before getting married.  That way you know, that no matter what may happen, you can take care of yourself.

Answer 6

Yes, it's too young. You need to be dating two years before thinking of any of this.

And in your circumstance, go to college and finish, start working, get out on your own in the world, and that's how one matures - by being independent for a while, and learning how to be the best woman you can. Then you can bring your best self to a marriage.

Answer 7

i'm engaged to get married to and both me and my partner are in teh navy and i can tell you one thing.

That if you both really love each other and want it to work, it is the right thing to do. When you love somone and you want to be with them money is not really an object as you make each otehr happy. sometimes that is all you need. If your boyfirend is talking baout going to the airforce you should support his desiction as much as you can and reming him that you will stand by him and be there for h im in everystep of the way.

Love has no bounderies. You knever know you might even supprise each other and end up having no worryes after you finish collage.

However it turns out, stand by your man and good luck!  

Answer 8

Wow ...you are really being grown-up about this.  Most young girls would jump at the opportunity.  I think that since you are grown-up acting...whatever your decision maybe you will think long and hard about it and do what is right for you.  I wish you the best and good luck!

Answer 9

its to soon. This is from experience, I was in the same situation at the same age. About 5 months into the relationship my boyfriend asked, I said no it wasn't the right time I wasn't ready, even though i knew one day deep down it would happen one day. He held several jobs i think for a total of eight. Its been 2 and 1/2 years  and now we are engaged. He has a job now that he is extremely happy at and making way more money. He also decided not to go to college, its not for everybody, but now he makes more then some people who graduate from college. If your doubting that you are ready then you are, you just simply got to listen to yourself.

Answer 10

ONE TIP.

7 years wouldnt be enough time for some to fall in love.

7 months is more than enough to know when its right.

Do what your heart and head say. If its the same thing - i say to you - CONGRATS!

Answer 11

If you're asking the question, yes it's too soon. You're only 18 and have only been dating for 6 months. A lot changes between 18 and 21. And a lot changes after 6 months in a relationship- you're still in the honeymoon phase.

Answer 12

well from what u say in two years things might change u mite get another job and if he join the force u will probably live on an military base. i live in one with my brothers wife and they provide ur house and some provide schooling for ur kids the one i live on does. i think u should sit down and talk to him about it before u make that big of a choose to get married at this age

Answer 13

you should go to college and let him go in the Airforce and in four years you will both in a better financial position to start a life together

Answer 14

You are very wise and smart to consider these things before you marry. Dont rush marraige is very hard and yes it is rewarding but the problems you described will not go away just because you are pronounced man and wife.

My husband and I waited a good 3 years before marriage and it has paid off we both work we rely on God and we dont ask anything from anyone and we pay back all who we borrowed from.

I am proud of you for being so mature at your age it is better to wait a couple of years not 5-10 but a couple of years until things get more settled and established.

But dont wait to get everything perfect either because you will never be ready to get married and the best things in life are not things e4g