Is this typical...?

Question

is it typical for my neice (she's 3) to want to cling to mommy and daddy all the time? (when one leaves she cries).

Answer 1

Yea dude its just they're just like that.

Answer 2

Most kids conquer separation anxiety by their third birthday. But don't be surprised if, once your child's cleared this hurdle, temporary episodes of separation anxiety continue to recur from time to time. What you'll see

Children this age can still flip-flop between wanting to be independent and needing to run back to the comfort and security of Mom or Dad's arms. Still, helping your child cope with separation now will make future separations easier. That's especially true if your child has a shy, anxious, or timid temperament, since he may be more sensitive to separations.

Your child will also be less dependent on you by around age 3. That's a positive sign that he's more secure and his sense of identity is stronger. For instance, he'll happily play with other children, instead of just side by side. And, of course, most kids this age walk, talk, feed themselves, and use the potty or toilet with little or no help from you or your partner. By age 4 or so, your child can dress himself, brush his teeth with supervision, and pour his own cereal. But don't panic; despite this emerging independence, there's a long way before your child packs his bags for college. What you can do

It's simple: Encourage your child's growing independence. "The challenge of parenting lies in finding the balance between nurturing, protecting, and guiding your child, and allowing him to explore, experiment, and become an independent, unique person," says California family therapist Jane Nelsen, author of the Positive Discipline book series. So let your child safely try something new, such as trying a different food, handling a conflict with his best friend, or riding a bike, and resist the urge to intervene. Jumping in to say, "I'll do it" can foster dependence and diminish your child's confidence.

Following are some smart strategies to try:

At home If your child has bouts of separation anxiety at home, your best bet is to figure out what he's afraid of — going to bed alone, for instance — and then address those fears with sympathy but not too much fuss, which can create the impression that his anxiety is warranted. To beat the bedtime blues, reassure your child that he's safe in an upbeat but matter-of-fact fashion. Say, "You've had something to drink and you've been to the toilet. So there's no need to get up again. It's time to lie down and go to sleep. Mommy will be in the next room."

When you need to head out for errands without your child or maybe even for a date with your partner, don't sneak out or lie about where you're headed. Prepare your child in advance, and then keep your goodbye ritual predictable, says Kristi Alexander, a pediatric psychologist at United States International University in San Diego. Try, "Christine is coming to play with you tonight while Mama and Daddy go to the movies. We'll come home after you've gone to sleep, but we'll come in and kiss you goodnight." And don't worry: You're not a bad parent if your child has difficulty separating from you. In fact, it's often a sign that you've established a strong bond with your child......

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Answer 3

Sure is...  She'll eventually grow out of it.

Answer 4

Absolutely! I have 3, ages 4, 2 1/2 and 1, and they all cry when one of us leaves.

Answer 5

Yes, it is typical. Some kids are just clingy to their parents and aren't outgoing because it's their personaility, But some kids are like that because mommy & daddy held them all the time when they were a baby and never let them just cry. My kids love me, but could care less whether I am there or not, because when they were babies I put them on the floor alot and help them gain their independence. Hopefully as she gets older she will grow out of it!

Answer 6

of course! i have 5 siblings, until about the age of 7 they have all be clingy to my mom, [not by dad though! ha!] kids are just naturally attached to there mothers, i mean, they were basically the same person for about 9 months!

If you're having problems getting them to calm down though after their parents leave, try playing a game or taking them outside [after the parent has already left]. Helps my siblings!

Answer 7

don't worry!

i Was just like that when I was little but i grew up and got over it and now my parents and I are just very very close. so no worrys! :)

Answer 8

Some children handle separation better than others.  It may be that she needs more time away from them to become use to it, but many children go through this.

Answer 9

Im not a parent (im 13)

but i have alotta cousins and they're very young and always cry why they have to leave their parents.

so yea it is typical

shes at a stage that she's still very dependent on her parents. she'll probually grow out of it and become more independent. maybe her parents should try to make her meet new people and maybe in another year put her into daycare or preschool. that way she'll meet new friends and become less clingy to her parents.

Answer 10

Totally,it's probably just a  phase and she will get over it!