Is this worth it or "lame"?

Question

Ok so this is the deal, I'm a 14 year teen, and right now I haven't had a girlfriend or "s*x" like many of my peers and people I know have. My friend suspects that I might be into men, which is not true.

But I've told them that I'm working very hard to keep my grades at the highest I can, and concetrate in baseball and football, I wanna end up playing in the MLB, and like they say, things in life don't come for free. I also don't wanna a girlfriend not cause, I'm ashamed of my physical apperance or have low self-esteem but beacuse I see it as a distraction to my goals and dreams, is this really worth it? Or am I over-reacting to much?

By the way I still love to have a great time with family and friends.

Thank you for the great answers.

Answer 1

hey man, whatever makes you happy. concentrate on your goals. but in my book, my dream is to settle down with a nice girl, have a job as a master carpenter, have kids, by a nice boat, and get your money and power first, then, you get the women. with the right woman, nothing can stop you

Answer 2

Comon its not lame at all.Its actualy wat I think...Why do we have to have gf,bf if we dont want them???And they just think bull **** so ignore it and then hope u success in ur goals..And i dont think ur into boys u seem to be a vey good and intelliget boy to me..Dont worry tell them to go to h**l with thier thoughts..

Answer 3

Stay true to your goals. All these things will happen eventually whats the rush. Would you jump off a bridge if your peers were? No didnt think so. Keep up the good work. Make yourself proud.

Answer 4

Well my best guy bud once told me that girlfriends weren't his thing because he had other interests he want to aspire. He still has friends who are girls though, but it's totally cool and normal.

Answer 5

i'm just like you. i don't care for a boyfriend. i don't need one, especially in high school it's all drama. plus what do i need support for, im a young healthy teenager whose life is fixable under my control. your friends sound really annoying, i'd hate if they did that but if you went out with a girl wouldn't they think you did it just to prove them wrong? just keep up with what you're doing and hopefully they'll leave you alone

Answer 6

your only 14!!!!!!!!!

your plan sounds good to me!:]

Answer 7

awesome! :D

but don't totally forget about girls..

if you happen to find a girl with the same goals as you... go for it.

Answer 8

don't get swayed by your peers. focus on your ambitious and keep succeeding!

Answer 9

If you know that you aren't ready for a girlfriend (they're so immature at that age) then by all means wait until you decide that you want one.  Don't let your friends pressure you.

Answer 10

I love you, you are every mother's dream!  Keep doin' what you're doin'!!!

Answer 11

i think you're correct and your friends are out of line. FOR GOD'S SAKE you're 14!!!!!! your head is in the right place, in your acadmia and your dreams. I was the same way at your age, i didn't want a boyfriend, i prided myself on being a robot and not just not being physically capable of those feeling, nor did i want them. Then early my sophomore year i got my first crush and my first boyfriend but it worked because we both had the same feelings for each other and we were both the academic geeks so the majority of our dates were tutoring sessions between the 2 of us. I guess what i'm saying is don't give up on your dreams but don't shut girls out. The right one will come along when you're not even looking and you'll feel it's worth it to be with her. Just don't sacrafice your dreams.

hope i helped a little, just i guess what i'm trying to say is stay focused but keep an open mind

Answer 12

You just sound like a guy that really has his mind on the prize.

Answer 13

no you're not over reacting that how 14 year olds should think

Answer 14

The opposite s*x is always going to be there for you

but your youth and freedom are not.  Enjoy the freedom

doing what you want when you want.

You can fix anything but a broken heart.

Answer 15

I think it's worth it. You have to work hard in order to get something you want. Just make sure you're balancing the two out (i.e. spending time with friends and getting good grades).

Answer 16

yes its worth it if your friends dont believe you then there not your real friends and you could be a little bit in over you head because your want to much in life but other then that your doing fine

Answer 17

power to you for wanting to focus on your goals unlike a lot of kids today. having a girlfriend might distract you, but she could also support you. that's another person to come to a game.

it's your choice, but if i found a girl i really liked, i wouldnt want to pass her up.

Answer 18

Dude, whatever you want

Answer 19

I don't think this is ridiculous at all!  Especially at your age, you're doing for yourself what a lot of adults now should have done for themselves back then.  I know lots of people including myself that were not sexually active until later on and truthfully after a certain point...people don't ask anymore and just assume.  It really becomes less important to others with age.  In fact, when I had gotten to college I was surprised to see how many guys actually also hadn't, and it wasn't because they didn't have the option to.  And also, don't believe what your guy friends tell you about everything.  Remember, you're the same age as them and you have a different perspective on things...which is completely fine.  Its not up to them to make your life's choices.  You need to do what is best for yourself because you are a different person than them and have different goals and priorities.

Besides...I know a lot of girls who think its very endearing for a guy to hold off on that stuff.  It means its an important decision for you and also that you have priorities.  You're really not missing out on much...especially at your age...you have OOOODLES of time to focus on these things later.

Answer 20

Dude, just go have s*x. If all the cool kids are doing it, then you should, too. You don't want to be a loser all through high school, do you?

Answer 21

Yes! Keep doing what you are doing. You are definitely going to be better off in the long run that some of your friends who are engaging themselves in these risky behaviors. Good job!!!

Answer 22

your a pretty smart kid..

but like your said if you feel a girl is going to be a distraction, then dont have any until you feel your ready..

its all that your can handle, most of the time it could  be a distraction if you dont know how to handle time and all that..

good luck =]