Is this wrong just need some opinions...

Question

Ok I have a bf that I have been with for 2 years we have a beautiful daughter together who is 10 months. We have a house together and everything seems great. His family loves me and we love each other. We have our ups and downs but what relationship doesn't. For the past couple of months I have been talking to one of my ex's which I seen for the first time in years at a club. I have not cheated on my bf since we been together. I talk to my ex and we sometimes see each other whenever I get a chance. Is it wrong that I feel this way like that I wanna see my ex we have not done anything like kiss or nothing but I know that eventually it will get there. I am only 21 and I feel young still like if I was still single without a husband and a child. Me and my ex really get along I dont plan on leaving my bf for him but I know I will eventually play my bf with my ex. I have been faithful for 2 years but seeing my ex and talking to him just takes me back.I am grown so I dont need anybody telling me your wrong or dirty I know what I do just wondered what anybody else thinks...

Answer 1

ok grl you need to let go of your ex... i mean think about it you have been working on this relationship with you bf for two years and if you keep talking to ur ex u will end up messing it all up and losing the one you love right now......and coming from divorced parents i can tell you it is not easy growing up with your mom and dad not living in the same house and not being able to see them every day so just take about an hour or so to yourself and think about it i promise it will turn out

Answer 2

"I am grown so I dont need anybody telling me your wrong or dirty I know what I do just wondered what anybody else thinks..."

I get it.  What you're really saying is that you don't want any lectures.  You just want to hear what will make you feel good.

Sorry kiddo but as a father who has daughters older than yourself you asked for opinions so here is mine.

No. I'm not going to tell you that you're dirty- totally selfish behavior yes, but you are not dirty.  You are acting totally irresponsible.  You have a 10 month old baby for crying out loud- and you are going to "play your bf and your ex"?

You need to get your act together.  Just exactly how does your little baby fit into all of this or is your beautiful little girl just going to be collateral damage while you play around.

Get rid of the ex and start acting like a responsible adult mother and partner.  You don't commit to a guy, have a baby and start playing house until you get bored.  You are NOT single.   You are NOT childless.

You asked if it's wrong to feel the way you're feeling?  Give your head a shake. Yes, it's wrong.  Unless of course you don't mind destroying something your bf has helped build. Only if you don't mind destroying your little daughter's future.  Only if you don't mind flushing your integrity down the toilet.

I cannot believe you would even consider doing this.

Answer 3

Its ok to stay in touch with exs, But is it fair to have feelings? Don't get me wrong, I just went through this. Was with one who reminded me of an ex. Never stopped loving my ex, but was waiting for her to return. And she did feeling the same way and the other is out of my life. Well, I still talk to her on the phone. I replaced the one I loved for someone who was simiular. Let your heart guide you.    

Answer 4

I think its normal, because when you are in a sexual relationship with someone you develop and "emotional tie" something that bonds you to them. Even if you break up and never see each other again, you still will think about the or if you see them want to be with them. You can break these ties and move on and be happy with your boyfriend now. But I would suggest that you quit talking to him because you don't want to do that to your daughter. If your boyfriend found out, you broke up..and down the road she went to visit him on her weekends...he'd end up telling her what happened, and you don't want her to know things like that. Be her hero!

Answer 5

Wow..... you need to really think about why you guys split up. Chance are he hasn't changed. Is it worth thrwoing away your current relationship over? I wouldn't talk to the ex anymore....EVER.

Answer 6

you are wanting your cake and want to eat it too and what you are doing is going to leave you alone as nether guy will want you in a while

Answer 7

Hmm...I love giving opinions.

Your current relationship sounds perfect, so I don't see why you feel the need to break things up. You have a child, and it's your responsibility to settle down and stay with your boyfriend for her sake. Do not get back together with your ex, it will bring up so many issues.

I think the best advice would be to drop your ex, and be happy with the life you have.

You say "I will eventually play my boyfriend with my ex....". What the h**l?

Just stop now while you're ahead and stay always faithful with your boyfriend.

Ex's are ex's for reasons. If you still wanted to be with him, you should have thought of that before you met your current boyfriend and popped out a child.

Best of luck! : )

xoxoxoxoxo

Answer 8

First of all your feelings are completely normal.  It does not matter how old you are.  It is a part of life.

It is how you act on them that makes the situation wrong.

You need to ask yourself 3 things.

1. Is it worth losing your family over?

2. Where will it put you in 2 years?

3. How would you feel if this were reversed and it was your b/f in you position with HIS ex????

Good Luck