Is wanting beauty and sexiness as qualities in your wife to be shallow?

Question

Or is it just the way we are?

Answer 1

No, not at all.

Answer 2

Is that the ONLY quality you are looking for?  If so, then you shouldn't get married.  She'll turn into a geezer right along side you and you'll have to switch every 10 years or so.  Of course, the 50 year old in the college bar is pathetic.  Just because he thinks he can "do better" doesn't mean he can.  

Oh, BTW, there's this silly thing called love.  You may not have heard about it.  It's like a meeting of the souls as opposed to the genitals.  That may be too complicated for some folks to understand since it isn't included in "food, bath, s*x".

Answer 3

Not at all. As long as she's beautiful on the inside too.

Answer 4

If wanting a man that has more power and money isnt shallow, then wanting a girl that is curvy beautiful and s**y isnt shallow.

Answer 5

thats natural but still they should not  form the sole parameters to judge your wifes worth

Answer 6

She should be attractive to you.  Who cares if she fits what society thinks is attractive?  As long as you do, it doesn't matter.  

But it is shallow to only be interested in beautiful and attractive people because they are beautiful and attractive.  Maybe I'm odd, but I'd like my future husband to be more than just attractive.

Answer 7

You do have to find your spouse attractive. I don't think it is shallow. Just remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may find a woman who isn't everything physically that you wanted, but falling in love makes every flaw vanish. She becomes the most attractive woman in the world to you!

Answer 8

If that's all you want, yes.

Answer 9

Do you want to marry a woman YOU think is beautiful and s**y, or do you want to marry a woman everybody else thinks is beautiful and s**y?

Smart men pick #1.  Stupid men pick #2.

Answer 10

if it's a deal breaker then your shallow.

There should have been many reasons why you loved and married your wife.

If her beauty fades or she's disfigured and you cannot stay married to her then your list of things you loved was not long enough in the first place.

Answer 11

I'm not sure why so many people think that beautiful and s**y women must be stupid, or b*****s, or bad people.  It is possible for a beautiful and s**y woman to be down to earth and generous and loving people.

We are humans who want to mate (really badly, all the time).  You are biologically engineered to go for someone who you want to look at and have s*x with.  Don't let the fat ugly women tell you you're shallow for not dating a hideous tub of lard - you are made to look for someone who you want to stick your p***s in.  It doesn't mean that you don't care about her other qualities at all, but you're not going to marry a woman who you think looks gross- personality just does not make up for the strong sense of SIGHT.  And when was the last time you met a fat woman with a great personality?

Answer 12

Yes, it's shallow and a bit immature.  But hey!  if those are traits you desire, then go for it.  Just be sure that you can accept the whole package.  What if your s**y beauty is a total airhead.....or self-centered..........or mean to people you care about?   I know several women who are considered very attractive and s**y, but they are also kind, honest, intelligent and moral.  Good luck in finding someone like that!  They are out there, but they are looking for a mate who wants more than a pretty, s**y partner.

Answer 13

No, it's not shallow.

Answer 14

no as long as it's not the only thing you're looking for.

Answer 15

Well, obviously physical attractiveness matters.  But there need to be other things you like about her, beauty alone will not engage your attention forever.

Answer 16

Of coarse its important as long as you realize that as time goes on, especialy if you have kids, that you will need to adapt to loving her for reasons other then pure sexuality or you will no longer be happy with her and want to move on to a twenty something when your forty

Answer 17

It's only shallow if that's ALL you want in a wife.  Looks and sexiness are great, but don't you want to enjoy her company, too?

Answer 18

It's shallow ONLY if that is the exclusive qualities you see in a person...or if you ignore truly bad character in order to have those qualities...or if the moment she does "age" or gain weight you want to throw her over for someone else.

Answer 19

Well, don't most of us (men and women alike) choose mates that we find physically attractive & "s**y" in some way? Whatever else we look for, personality, good humor, whatever, for most people looks factor into it on some level. Maybe not at the top of the list, but it is there. That's just reality. So, I think that perhaps it is both. Yes, it is a little shallow, but it is also the way that we are all programmed.