Is wedding planning what you thought it would be like?

Question

I thought it would be a blast. A chance to catch up with friends and pick things and laugh. It's been quite the opposite. I find myself more alone, more planning and trying to please others. I guess I don't have as many good friends as I thought.

Is wedding planning what you thought it would be like?

Answer 1

Its WAY harder than I thought. I'm just starting but already getting a little stressed out.  I hope it gets a little easier as I go...  

Answer 2

no i thought the same as you. my hubby didn't even help. i managed to get it all planed out seating, food and prices. but it was hard my bridesmaids didn't help even a little. i didn't like that at all. but everything came out alright in the end.

Answer 3

Everyone I have known that planned a wedding got stressed out at some point. Some more than others. The ones that have it the easiest are the ones that have family to SUPPORT them- not be picky and demanding. The people that have family members that start drama usually have it the hardest. The budget can be a source of stress as well.

Answer 4

wedding planning.... i just copped out and told my wife, sweetie, i want this to be your day...lol  you and your mom should pick it all.  elect someone to pick everything, and then just go in one at a time and consider them, or make alterations.. then maybe it wont feel so overwhelming. start with what you strongly disagree with first, and close in form there.

Answer 5

It was exactly like I thought it would be.  I didn't have expectations like you though.  I knew that planning any event for 200 will be stressful.  I'd never met most of my husband's family.  My mother and I have never agreed so I knew when I told her what I wanted that she'd be completely opposed to it.  

I tried to keep it as low stress as possible by being highly organized.  I did everything exactly when I could and did anything possible early.  I had my invites ordered at least 6 mo out, my favors done about 5 mo early.  And in order to keep my mother out of my hair--I went dress shopping when she was outta town so that I had it limited to a Top 3 before she ever saw a single one.  I also know nothing about flowers.  I gave her pictures of my bridesmaids dress and scraps of my color scheme.  She was allowed to pick the florist and meet with him all by herself.  Secretly I hated them.  Wish he could have understood what color yellow is and that its not a shade of coral.  BUT if I had to do all over again--I wouldn't have done a thing differently.  Letting my mother be in control of flowers kept her energy focused.

I actually enjoyed it so much that I do a lot of event planning now.  But no--coordinating any event for that many people is never all fun and games.  As far as your friends go, you have to keep telling yourself that just b/c they don't care that much about your wedding--that doesn't mean they aren't your true friends and don't love you.  But it does mean that it isn't their wedding.  Weddings can cost a lot of friendships.  I discovered a couple fake friends among my "close" friends.  Just don't say anything in the heat of the bridal planning haze that you'll regret afterwards when your head is clear.

Answer 6

My mother and I have been doing it pretty much by ourselves. I thought my bridesmaids would have helped out a lot more- I let them know when I'm doing stuff like putting together the favors, programs, etc... But, no they haven't been much help. Maybe it's their age, and since none of them haven't been bridesmaids before they don't know any better. It has been a bit more stressful than I thought.

Answer 7

Thus far it hasn't been and I'm honestly like... "honey lets just take our time and take a break for a little bit" (my fiancé is helping in the planning). I thought I'd be more into it but instead it's stressful and because I'm the first of my friends to get married they are of no help at all and just "don't want to hear it".  

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Nope, I can honestly say it really hasn't been the fun that I thought it would be! Moving to a different part of the country means that I've found an awful lot of my friends (or so called) that are unwilling to travel even if we pay for a hotel for them, which makes it sad.

I've had a LOT of interference from my hubby-to-be's mum too, mainly financial, so I feel obliged to let her have her way. I haven't even seen the inside of the church we've booked!

Like yourself, any and all of my planning seems to be geared towards pleasing others, and quite frankly, it's not nice at all! I feel for you on that front, but I'm sure it'll get better. Perhaps try talking to your fiance, they may be able to help calm the feeling of pressure and loneliness that you're associating with the planning. don't let the stress of it all get to you, and good luck with your marriage :)

Answer 10

No wedding planning is not what I thought it would be at all! I decided to have a small wedding to avoid planning. Even though it's small, there is still a number of things that need to get done and it's all a great big head ache. On a better note, I'm glad I decided not to have a huge schin-dig otherwise I would have ripped my hair out by now and I'd be a bald bride! Hang in there dear, it'll be over before you know it!