Is your family as screwed as mine?

Question

I am the oldest of 11 children. I just met my father last yr in april. He called my sister (on my mom's side) a w***e because she had a baby @ 14. He married a 14 yr old girl when he was 23. Anyways my mother and him never got married. She instead married 2 other men. She is now married to her 2nd husband. This man is a jerk. He kicked my 17 yr old brother out of the house and threatened to shoot him. I tried to talk to my mother about it but she blames it on his diabieties. I'm sorry but low blood sugar doesn't cause you to be physically and mentally abuseive 24/7. I have called children services several times in the past. My mother is really good at faking the whole woe is me I had to many children and am trying the best I can. The socail workers get sucked right in and just give her things. Well because I came out and told her that if I find out that her husband does anything else I was calling the police and children services and this time something will be done. She isn't talking to me and wont let me talk to my brothers and sisters. What should I do? I already don't talk to one parent and I am afraid for thier safety. Should I apologize?

Answer 1

Although you were probably right to call the police, and I totally understand your point of view...as you say, your mother is still important to you. So perhaps you should try and appologize, just to mentain a good relationship with her.

Otherwise I have to say something about you and your family. As you mentioned , there's a lot going on and there are some problems in the family. There is a silver line to all this though: you gained a lot of life experience from it all - . You probably have confidence in dealing with people and situations which many other people don't have .

I have a very small family, no brothers and sisters, and feel very lonely sometimes. My social skills are underdeveloped, because I never had to deal with siblings, or had any family around.

So in a way you are very lucky.

Answer 2

haha yeah that is pretty f'd up its like the Osbournes or something.  Good luck buddy :)

Answer 3

Wow. Mkaii. You should talk to your mother. Tell her that your sorry and you understand why shes upset but she has to understand why your upset. You feel that she is unsafe in her house and you are just considered for her. If she still doesn't understand talk to a family member you really turst, a grandmother, aunt ect. Or even talk to a friend. Try calling the kids help phone or if doesn't work, I am sorry but you need to call the police or children sevices again.

Good Luck! E-mail me and let me know how it works out!

Luv, JD☼

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Answer 4

No.

Do not apoligise for you doing the right thing.

Yes i have an incredibely fecked up family but i want say whats wrong with it on here.

I f i were you i would move on with your life and distance yourself, go back to social services and tell them about your upbringing and where your concerns are for the siblings, end of day...you cant change how they do thier jobs even if they c**p at it.

Your brothers and sisters will contact you when they older and understand stuff more.

Answer 5

Not nearly as "screwed" but none the less I bet you never suffer from absolute dulled out boredom and the occasional urge to smack a sibling just to break the silence.

Answer 6

you should try to take your brother to live with you.  talk to your mother and try to apologize.  then try to convince her to let your brother live with you.  maybe you can get your mom some counceling. good luck

Answer 7

No apologies needed hun. Maybe from them to you! If I were you and worried about my brothers and sisters I would help them. Call the child services and the police whenever needed. Try to talk to your mother alone. If there is anything you can get on paper, pics...ect on this "stuff" that is going on then do it! If you can't help then I would move on and try to make a life and family of your own. This is where you need to be strong and know that at least you know right from wrong. I know it's hard but believe me letting go of people who cause more harm than good in your life is the first step to being happy!