Is your marriage pretty much a business relationship that centers around the kids' well-being?

Question

I will admit to this if you will. Please, no newlyweds!

Answer 1

No.  It used to revolve only around my ex.  I never married though and avoided all that nonsense.  

Answer 2

no my marriage pretty much is a roommate soon to be ex roommate status,,

Answer 3

Marriage can be like a business relationship at times but as long as that is balanced with laughs, conversation, nights out and s*x....then you have a well rounded relationship.  

Remind yourself of what life was like before the kids came along, what you enjoyed doing together, and keep doing it!  Now you have, in your words "admitted it" you can do something about it.

Buy some flowers, wine and.........Have some fun.....

ps not a newlywed....14 year anniversary next week!

Answer 4

Get the book the proper care and feeding of husbands.  Read it in front of your wife.  It could save your marriage

Answer 5

I am not even married.  I have been with the same person for almost 4 years and no, right now it is not just for the kids.  I don't even want to get married right now though for real.  WAY TO WAIT huh?!

Answer 6

At some points in time, our marriage was exactly that, or at least it certainly felt that way. It was all business and the kids' interests and well-being were at the center of it. There was no "us" - it felt like a marriage in name only. It was not a good feeling to have. After years of trying, you get to the point of "I'll just wait a while and see if he (she) starts seeing the light and comes around".  That's because you get sick and tired of being the only one trying to make it work.  It seemed like I was the one doing all the giving, all the compromising in the relationship and he was just happy with the way things were. He just didn't see the problem. Finally, he gets it, at least some of it, and he is really trying, too.  I feel better about our marriage than I have in a long time, possibly ever. Love, and knowing and feeling that love, is the most important thing in a marriage. You can have a business marriage if you are both content with that, but chances are, the contentment will be short-lived. It may be just a resting period until you gather up your strength again.  Good luck to everyone who is going through this in their marriage!

Answer 7

3rd account hun? Well, I think so if you want to think of it that way. I believe after some time espically when you have to concern yourself with the well-being of your children and their needs (Soccer pratice, birthdays, prom etc) having a business partner isn't bad. Sometimes you are too tired to do anything but to say I love you.  And to be with someone after all of that is worth it.  

Answer 8

Great question!!!  we all know there are so many like this, lets see how many are willing to own up to it!!!

Answer 9

Yep,but sometimes arent they all like that,I wont lie to you Reality,I know that you,like me have been knocked around by a jerk of a spouse,so yes,sometimes I feel like I have a bad roommate,but she picks up the kid and packs the lunches and kisses boo boos and the kid loves her,and that makes me love her to,we have our moments,its not like a buisness all of the time but sometimes it sure feels like one.