Is your spouse obligated to tell you everytime s/he goes on a business lunch w/ a member of the opposite s*x?

Question

I never say. Why bother?

Answer 1

Not really but if it makes the other person feel more secure then why not?

Answer 2

not obligated.. but when i found out i was a little annoyed because this girl wants my bf and thought that they were dating...so as long as they are just friends its fine... out of respect it should be told

Answer 3

if there are trust issues, then maybe to make your spouse feel better, yes you should tell them. For me personally, i don't care what my hunni does, i know i can trust him

Answer 4

Obligation NO

Should you, well if you were going for lunch with someone of the same s*x, and in casual conversation would you mention it? that should answer your question. But if you are purposely leaving it out of the conversation because you feel it migth lead to an argument or something, then maybe you SHOULD be telling that person.

Answer 5

No, at least not as far as I'm concerned, between my husband and myself.  We trust each other and so I don't see any reason to feel obligated to bring it up each and every time it occurs.  It wouldn't be any different than if it were a business lunch with a member of the same s*x.  It's a business lunch, not a date.  

For someone with an excessively insecure/jealous spouse, it may not be wise to bring it up in some marriages and yet in others, it might be better to mention it each and every time so they don't think you're trying to hide something.  I guess you know what works best with your spouse.  As long as you're not doing anything wrong, at least your conscience is clear.

My husband and I talk about everything that happens in our day so chances are we would mention it in passing, but not because we felt it necessary to point it out.

Answer 6

You have trust and it's your wife so no big deal unless, you notice that she is different sexually then your accusations may come wide open to be true.

Answer 7

not manditory depends on job as to need to go to lunch but in a good relationship they would tell but you would not worry so it would not matter there is a need to communicate and trust it is two sided issue

Answer 8

No, unless you have cheated before and now she wants to know who you go out to lunch with. Or if you have business lunch with an ex. Just so there won't be any misunderstanding.

Answer 9

i think you should, because if your spouse finds out, it can ruin your relationship.  

Answer 10

I don't believe so. Especialy if there is  trust in that person.

Answer 11

I don't think you have to mention it every time - why make a big deal out of it?  On the other hand, don't try to hide it either, because then it just looks suspicious.  My spouse isn't the jealous type at all, and neither am I, and we also have a very good relationship, so we tell each other anytime we go to lunch with someone period, no matter who it is.  Not because we're "reporting in", but we just like to share our days with each other.  But if you don't normally talk about your lunch activities, I wouldn't worry about it.  It's just lunch.

Answer 12

No unless your up to something in which case your cheating and should just get out of the relationship.

Simple lunch with a friend = no big deal.

If you feel like you have to tell them then maybe you feel guilty about it.

Answer 13

No.

Answer 14

No, but it could sound suspicious if they find out about it from someone else.  Especially if you have a history of not being so faithful.

Answer 15

If you're true to your spouse, I wouldn't. Sometimes it can cause more problems than its worth.

Answer 16

If it is work-oriented then I don't see why? You have to trust your spouse. I work with women all day long and when I am at work I am focused on work. Now if your spouse kept going on and on about this person of the opposite s*x then I might worry.

Answer 17

If it becomes a regular thing with the same person, I think it should be brought forward, just to avoid any misunderstanding or hearsay from causing trouble.  And I think that this should be discussed and dealt with case by case depending on what the wedded couple has agreed upon.

Answer 18

good thing about being single is that you never have to check in or tell mommy what you've been doing all day.

Answer 19

Not "obligated", but shouldn't be afraid to either.

Answer 20

Nope.

Answer 21

ask your partner what they want but my opinion is it souldn't matter it seems to make more of a deal when u say it. trust is the key

Answer 22

Not at all. If you feel obligated its rather going "too far" with things. Your spouse doesn't need to know that much detailed information, especially when it comes to BUSINESS! Now if you/her are coming home later after work, theres a problem ;)

Answer 23

I think you should in case someone spots you out and then runs and tells your spouse, "I saw your husband/wife eating out with another woman/man!!!!"  Of course, the person would probably add details to the story too...by telling it avoids any unnecessary suspicion and shows respect for your spouse....

Answer 24

Not obligated to tell, but it would be nice to know.

It goes both ways.

Answer 25

I think you should tell your spouse. In my relationship with my husband, we know who each other is with, that way nothing is held back or can be thought of as something it isn't.

Why wouldn't you tell your spouse who you are with? There should be nothing to hide. And if there is, you shouldn't be married anyways.

Answer 26

It is not a question of being obligated but a question of respect for the spouse.  Wouldn't it be better for to hear about the luncheon date from the spouse than to hear it from idle gossip or from a co-worker a couple of months down the road?  It is better to be honest from the beginning than have to face the hurt later.

Answer 27

No, if its strictly business then it is strictly business. It is NOT necessary to tell if you are going to lunch with someone of the opposite s*x. That is a trust issue that needs to be dealth with accordingly.

Answer 28

The most important thing to me is that my husband is never concerned with my going's on.  I love being happily married and would not want to put him in the position to wonder.

Why would anyone want to concern their spouse.  

As far as being "obligated" to tell your spouse.  It would be the respectful thing to do and "obligation" is not the issue.  If you are just worried about obligations then your marriage is already in trouble.

Again, it depends on if having a strong happy marriage is more important that a business lunch.  Sometimes spouses get lost in the power struggle and forget that marriage is a cooperative and not a competition.  

And last but not least, adulty is not usually something that is planned, it happens when you don't keep your marriage at the forefront of your decisions and the next thing you know......

Answer 29

i would not say obligated but out of respect

Answer 30

I say once there is a reason to and not untill then .We should be smart enough to see something strange is going on and if your thinking then I would question it. What is a stong relationship w/out trust?

Answer 31

Not obligated - but it would be considerate to tell me.. and he usually does. Why? Because it leaves no room for later misunderstandings!