Is ‘the silent treatment’ completely wasted on men?

Question

Surely they just think they’re getting a break from nagging?

My friend told me she gave her man the silent treatment for 2 weeks- but he didn’t seem to react at all to her stance. So she gave up, he then admitted he hadn’t noticed any difference, except he wasn’t asked to do anything for 2 weeks. So why do us women see the silent treatment as a form of punishment for men!

Answer 1

Lol, i agree.  I hate to argue, but sometimes receiving the silent treatment means no no more nagging either for awhile.  

Wheww!

Answer 2

they could care less...men are guilty of doing this too and can do it way longer....I think the silent treatment beyond about 5 minutes to ponder what to say is very very selfish and self centered ...I can't stand it...either speak your mind or spit it on the wall so i can read it! cause I'm not a mind reader! hello! LOL!  btw...good question..:0)

Answer 3

You have to add things to the 'silent treatment' though. No making dinner, no s*x and certainly no washing or ironing. They would soon cave in to all of that!  

Answer 4

Not on me its not..The silence is very welcome at times...Peace perfect peace for me...

I should only be so lucky...

Answer 5

you have your way and we have ours...we know when you are doing the silent treatment...but we also know that ignoring it is by far the best defence

Answer 6

relationship games never end with a silver cup do they?  i could do with a trophy for my nonexistent cabinet or some s*x of course...for me not my nonexistent cabinet!!  xx

Answer 7

Well depends on the man.

A man who is giving you his full attention and trying to look after you and make you feel loved would immediately wonder what is up.

A lazy guy who doesnt rlly giv a sh** wud prolly jus b relieved like the guy u gave an example of.

But at the same time if the girl keeps nagging al the time, id also wish she'd giv me the silent treatment.

Women need to find a different way of saying and approachin men as the most common one (nagging, complainin or accordin to us jus saying) doesnt get to them.

Perhaps... stop doin wtvr it is u want him to. If tis messy n u want him to clean it up leav it (as hard as it may be) and eventually he might understand how u feel.

Answer 8

The silent treatment is a weakness , not a 'way of punishing', a fault in our character...Its much easier to sulk and stop to talking to your partner, then to make the effort and talk to them. It would save us a lot of time if we would make the effort and explain to the guys what they did wrong instead of just expecting them to guess.

Answer 9

Depends on the man. Whenever my lady does it I always have to check I haven't gone deaf.

Answer 10

Yea, we sort of know when we get the silent treatment, it comes with the sour face and the look away eyes, lol.

Its not a good tactic at all, a blessing.

Answer 11

Yes, it's a total waste of time on your part.  It's up there with expecting us to guess what we did wrong.  

Don't do it ! - just tell us what we did, or what we were supposed to think of on our own.

If you set traps, we're gonna fall into them, we don't have a clue.

I know my place - in the wrong.....

Answer 12

Silent treatment = Ahhhhhhh blessed relief

Answer 13

My wife once tried that nonsense on me and it didn't work.

I find it very childish and It's very often used for selfish reasons.

The worse scenario of this, is when a woman talks to her partner/husband through the children with that "Ask you father if" nonsense when you are sat in the same room as them.

Totally embarrassing the kids.

Answer 14

sience on my man drives him absolutely nuts,he hattes it.lolololololololol.its the only way i get my way and my say.some men like the quite treatment as its a quite life for them but i find most dont like it.i say all women shud do it.we owe men nothing at times as they give us reason to be quite wid them.if u dont want us quite then behave yourself guys.wen my hubby really plays up and starts thinking the world owes him a favour then off i switch.i then get the plse i cant take it wen u dont speak to me so hey if it works for me it might work for others.until u tryed it u will never no.it makes me feel so much better cus i get HEARD.good luck ladies.pinkssssss

Answer 15

my hubby wouldnt notice either. hes pig ignorant. i ask myself daily why i put up with it. one example, he went away for the weekend to see his family, i stayed home with the kids. he came back and walked through the door and he honestly didnt even say hello. he just came in with his friend, put his bag down and went into the kitchen talking to his friend. after about 10 mins he asked me if i wanted some of his take away. i said no and that was conversation over. he didnt ask how me or the kids have been and he thinks there is nothing wrong with the way he acts. if you ignore them, they dont care if you argue, they walk away so they dont have to listen to it. you cant win!