Isit a bad thing to tell this guy that is crazy abt u to stop loving u??

Question

Im not going into details about the matter but me and my on-off bf....had a row on msn. the final straw was me telling him to stop loving me in which he said ''I cant just stop loving you I cant just turn my feelings off like a switch'' and then i typed ''well im asking you 2'' then he quickly typed ''fine if thats what u want'' - - then quickly declared offline and he was gone b4 i could even blink.

is it wrong 4 me to push him away cuz im so nasty to him and deep dwn dnt want him to get hurt indr lng run buh styll.....is it wrong to ask some1 to stop loving u? (whilst deep down u regret sayn it).

Answer 1

There's no past tense in loving someone.

It's either you still do or you never did.

Therefore, if this guy really loves you, then he won't be able to stop loving you. However, if he "stops" he never really did.

You should be honest with him and tell him how you feel about him without being too nasty.

I hope that helps.

Answer 2

No, it will just break his heart.

Answer 3

Don't worry about what you said; it's said. If you don't want to be with him, say that, once. Just one more time.

Then block him and don't say another word.  

Answer 4

I honestly dont understand what your saying.

Please type properly!

Answer 5

Your boyfriend is right.  When you really love someone, you can't just turn it off like a switch!  If you can do that, you really didn't love the person to begin with.

When a relationship ends and one partner still loves the other, they have to grieve the loss of the relationship and everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time.  You can't order someone to stop loving you!  That's very unkind and insensitive of you

It won't be helping him through this process if you keep chatting with him on msn and showing up in his life!  If you don't love him and if you don't want to be with him, quit playing with his head and his heart and make a clean break from him!  Be fair about this and give him the opportunity to heal and move on.