Island mythology? Who can interpret this?

Question

I have a re-occuring dream that I believe is due to my heritage and strangely effecting my life now. I am half pacific islander, my dad is from Kiribati, but his great-grandmother was Hawaiian. My grandmother always told me that the island people have strong connections with ancestors, I guess it is a lot like Asian mythology. I am standing at the edge of a huge lake in a misty rainforest, I know I am not from this time, I see my reflection in the water but I don't see me, I literally see some pochahontus look-a-like with long dark hair, darker skin and well, its embarassing but I am naked. Then I submerge into the water knowing I am going to swim to the other side of this huge lake possibly to see my lover, its so beautiful. BUT the whole time I keep thinking about how sad I am due to this man who I know I can't be with because he is white, and not the man my father wants me to marry.

Fast forwarding to real life, this man no joke, I have recently met and I am not kidding, he is the man who I have dreamt about nearly my whole life, but he is 44 years old now and possibly married... What happened? Did fate get it wrong or will we still be together? Whenever I am around him the de ja vu I feel is so intensly strong, and I know he feels it too. What does it all mean? (hold the Pochahontus jokes plz lol - this is serious)

Answer 1

With your dream, water represents cleansing and mist (or darkness) reprsents change.  That you know you are not from this time, means you are uncomfortable at this stage of your life.  Looking at the refelction means that the cleansing process (the water) reveals your inner self.  It's your inner self because you are naked (unprotected, unsheltered, no pretense or act--it is you seeing yourself comfortable in your skin).  The long dark hair and darker skin shows inside of you (your ancestory and genetics are Hawian and Asian--you are seeing yourself cleaned of the everyday environment for who you truely are and where you have come from).  You feel and see the beauty of your ancestory and it is underneath it all who you feel you are and how you identify yourself.   When you submerge you are going to the id level of your psyche, swiming means change and movement in your life and huge lake means huge change, the lake is cleansing in a spirtual sense.  Your lover in this beautiful environment shows that you are beautiful, you want to love yourself and accept yourself on a deep level.  Your feeling sad and thinking about how sad you are because you can't be with this man means that at the superego level (conscious higher level cognitive thinking)is having difficulty accepting yourself as white or in a white world (this will make more sense in a few moments).  What I mean by this is that white skin means that part of you or your life.  Your father not wanting you to marry him means that you are protecting yourself or on some level feel a need to protect yourself (your father is paternal and represents protection and your ancestory) from assimilating (joining with a white man or a white world) and losing sight of your ancestory and your soul that you have seen the reflection of.  I think the feeling of sadness means that this conflict and turmoil is hurtful.

May I offer you an alternate context for the man you have met.  It is believed by many that we are reincarnated.  That the people in our lives were around us in prior lives.  It is also believed that we select our birth parents and families as do our siblings due to relationships in past lives.  If this is your belief, it is entirely probable you have met him in past liveS, that he has been (if he is not now) your husband or soulmate and that in this life, fate has now brought you together (eg. there are no coincidences) again.  This might not mean that you are meant to be together now, but you truly feel your bond as soulmates as has been manifested repeatedly, in numerous instances, throughout time.

I hope this is of some help.

Answer 2

I promise not to joke about Pocahontas. I hold her sacrifice to knowledge in high regard, actually.

Some food for thought:

It is said that all people who listen can hear the call of their ancestors. And, to be fair, DNA studies around the world show that we are all one people (just got some good coloration changes and slight changes to bone structure is all).

When age comes into play, there are social customs in place that prevent those who have large age differences from interacting, but they are mostly social customs. If he's married, that's a contract. If you started a relationship with him, you're helping him to break that contract. Someone who breaks an oath in almost any traditional culture is held in low regard. Find out about him first. Not all connections are understood at first. You might think of him as a lover and find out he's actually closer. I have a friend like that, and it makes my lady jealous, but she's grown to accept that we're not actually doing anything other than being very close friends.

See the full situation before you plunge headlong into the lake of uncertainty. See what's under the surface before you see anything. If it is meant to happen, it will happen on its own. If it's not meant to happen, forcing it to happen will only bring misery.

Let the spirit of your father speak to you in that dream. Once you get to know him, listen to the memory, as it might change. If it grows stronger, make sure you're paying attention to the tricks that this 44-year-old man might be pulling (and as a guy, I can firmly say that we ALL pull tricks, whether consciously or subconsciously...), which are probably nothing bad, per se, but if he's not being honest with himself, he could end up hurting you both, too.

Listen to these things within yourself. Water is a sign of life and happiness. But too much of it can bring death.

Answer 3

i think its a bit.....u know, ur dreams always reflect ur life. so it might be that ur really want this man but this is not possible. u r ready to take any risk for him. and might be ur story is a bit like pochahontus. so ur mind is mixing both of them and ur getting that dream. try working it out with a trusted frend. try telling ur dream to that man. and ask him...whether he has any kind of feelings for u. if yes, then be really happy. and see u get that dream again or not. if u get it...then u dont really believe him saying that he loves u or stuff. if he says no, then move one. its jus an illusion of ur inner feelings, i believe

Answer 4

maybe you're seeing what happened to one of your ancestors a long time ago. you may think it was you but i've heard that some people may look (surprisingly) similar to their ancestors. for example- my friend showed me a photo (that was quite old- black and white) and i swear i thought it was her in it, but no my friend said that it was her great-great grandmother.

It may be that.

or maybe in your previous life; (if you had one- or if you believe in that kinda stuff)

you had a lover - perhaps the one that you think is in your dream- maybe its his way of saying that he'll always be with you...

these suggestions may seem very unlikely...

but thats what i think.

hope i helped.