Isn't it my wife's responsibility to look good for me?

Question

I exercise, watch the diet, and keep fit and healthy to be appealing. Shouldn't every wife take the same initiative and always look good for their husbands, even though they already "have" them?

Answer 1

responsibility??? i would not go that far, but there should be a certain knowledge to women, and men too, that if you want to keep your partner interested you can not let yourself go.

Answer 2

Absolutely...

But if she refuses... there is always the DOOR. Either one of you can use it.

Answer 3

Nope, she's just as she wants to be. Leave her alone.  You don't have any faults, I assume?

Maybe you should help out more and she'd have some time to fix herself up.

Answer 4

As far as I'm concerned, spouses can look like whatever they want as long as they treat their partners well. If this is what matters to you most, you obviously don't love her that much.

Answer 5

I believe both should do their absolute best to be the person each married ( if not better).

The problem is that ( source : many women) once a woman feels "comfortable and secure " ,say for example by a legal and binding contract that entitles her to 1/2 your stuff, she no longer feels the need to maintain her looks.

The solution is to prevent her from feeling comfortable and secure, ideally by Not Marrying Her !

Answer 6

Women want to be loved for who they are, not how they look.  Most women love their husbands, even after they gain weight and lose their hair.  That physical stuff is important to us, but it's also easy for us to look past it when the emotional satisfaction is there.  (For most women anyhow.)  So we expect men to be the same way.  But they aren't.  Most women don't know how important physical attractiveness is to men.  We just aren't wired that way.  Women tend to be more emotional, while men tend to be more physical.

So yes, a truly understanding wife will make an effort to look attractive for her husband, the same way he should make an effort to provide for her emotional needs.

Answer 7

what? is your wife not beautiful? because if she didn't do this before why should she start because she is married? well maybe wives get upset about this kind of stuff because you wife thinks you are going to leave her for a younger model, if she is not looking good she wont run off with anyone else will she?

My friend says: this is the 21st century not the 1950s and your wife shouldnt want to look good for anyone but herself!

Answer 8

I have to agree with you. All women should keep themselves up not just for us, but their health as well.

ME.....

Answer 9

Yes it is her responsibility to look for herself and her mate.

It's also his responsibility to look for himself and for her.

It's also his responsibility to be worthy of her otherwise another guy who is worthy of her will replace him.

Answer 10

So, you want to have the s**y Stepford wife from the 50's. Well, let's turn this around a bit. Are you holding up your end of the bargain? Have you become the absolutely best, top-earning CEO that she can be proud of?

I pity you and your wife if all you think is that her responsibility is to look good for you because your marriage is bound to fail.

Maybe her next husband will appreciate her for who she is.

Answer 11

It is your choice to keep fit to be appealing, not part of a contract. (Also, why do you use yourself as a sole example then say "every wives" not "every spouse"? At least as many men let go of themselves after marriage as women do - excluding obviously the effects of pregnancy).  

Ideally, married couples should love each other unconditionally, regardless of appearance or health, so neither should *have* to do this.

Answer 12

She should look good because she wants to, not because her husband thinks she should look better.

Answer 13

Nope.  Its your wife's responsibility to be what she wants to be.  If you have a problem with the way your wife looks or how she maintains her self image, then first ask yourself again why you married her (and I truly hope it wasn't for her looks, no matter how good she might have looked back then) and try to remember the other good things about her.  And second, talk to her about it.  Maybe you should suggest exercise activities that you can do together.  And you know, exercise increases the s*x drive...

Answer 14

No doubt about it, this dog is ready to have puppies: first, the worse she starts to look, the better the girls at the gym look, the less he wants s*x with her, the later he stays out, the more she accuses him. etc, etc,

Answer 15

NO!! That is very not cool...ur supposed to love ur wife for who she is not what she looks like..Though if u want her to look good y don't u go shopping w/ her and tell her what u like and dislike..but i bet u wont do that because most guys don't like shopping anyway..

Answer 16

Yes, ladies should always look proper.  If she isn't she's not being a good woman.

Answer 17

How much time does she have to do this?

Answer 18

lol your married hahaha ya it is the least she can do because in the end it is really going to cost you.

Answer 19

people excercise and eat right when they are feeling good.  why dont you try being charming and take her for an hour walk every day.  if your fun to be with she will go with you and the pounds will just fall off.  do it together and make it fun.

Answer 20

Staying in good shape has many benefits. It's not just about you. Be patient, and keep encouraging her (without hounding her). Eventually she'll agree it's a good idea to be healthy.

Answer 21

Yes.  Both spouses should keep themselves fit and healthy for each other, and themselves.

Answer 22

There's a saying I'm reminded of "Women dress up and look good to impress other women." They know they have control over men already and don't feel like they have to dress and impress you. Try taking her out to places where there are stunning, beautiful women and see if she starts to dress up.

Answer 23

It depends how strongly you feel about that sort of thing.  Neither my husband nor I expercise or diet, and both of us have put on weight in middle age, but we still find each other attractive.  My husband is strongly opposed to dieting and exercising, so he would probably disapprove if I tried to do anything like that.