Isn't it sad knowing pleasures don't last forever?

Question

whatever nice things you had done: drink the best wines, be the most wanted person, dated tons of hottest guys/girls, hangin around with the popular people, attend the greatest proms, sing and dance or whatever you may do.

they're fun that you think it's a waste to not to experience them, since you should keep em all as personal memory

yet they pass by very quickly.

and thinking back about them will just put you at the same status as dreaming, since imagining them is the only thing left for you.

while life is about moving forward

so, after all these pleasures

they come

and they go

and there's no way for you to get them back

you're growing older

and what's nearer

is only death.

then you die.

life is funny, eh?

just wanna know what you think

Answer 1

I think life is a unique journey for everyone.

For me, I  can confirm that what you say in your question to be true, from where you were when you wrote it.

However, always remember that you are on a journey, your unique  journey of life...

It is necessary to live in the eternal NOW, and to achieve this, it is again necessary to realize that the past is dead, (bury it) and tomorrow never comes (it is only a word to describe our time system) and that leaves in the NOW, where life is happening.

As we all mature, we go throught the different stages of life...

Example:

Shakespers... 7 ages of man...

All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players,

They have their exits and entrances,

And one man in his time plays many parts,

His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,

Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms.

Then, the whining schoolboy with his satchel

And shining morning face, creeping like snail

Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,

Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad

Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier,

etc.  (Please use Google for the remainder).

You appear have arrived at a reflective time in your life, as we all do and the thing to remember is the journey and all the new experiences it brings. Of course new experiences inevitably bring change, some  good and some not so good ! Why?  We have lessons to learn which bring growth, knowledge, answers to our questions, etc. and these challenge us and with the outcome of our challenges me mature, to a much or lesser extent (to each our own).

I have a question for you:

Would you really have yourself stuck in time, still doing the party scene and have missed out on the rest of your life and its experiences?

Now we all know that our path leads only to the grave and there is certainly no way out of it.  However, in between birth and death the choice is ours.

Personally speaking, I know we have free will, and that being so, I always take the Straight Path, and even that has many trials and tribulations for my human spirit to overcome.  

There is no easy path, life is the journey, the choice is ours... roll the dice, winners win, looser loose and my target is to be reunited with God+  He is my reason to live and die, all I see and all I do... I know that I am His and this life is an elusion that too will pass!

Now you know what I think!  Knowing my thoughts, are you any the wiser?  Will you find something here that you need... I hope you do+

Thank you for your profound question.

Answer 2

Once we realize the source of pleasure comes from within rather than with out we can have eternal happiness.  People grasp at externals and exaggerate the value of them which makes the attachment stronger, thus hard to let go.  All the while it isn't recognized that the external sources of pleasure or happiness is subject to gain and loss.  Inner pleasure is not subject to temporary existence because it is always with us.

Answer 3

In the end, nothing matters.

We are like any other mammals, insects.

We just think too deeply and interact in sophisticated network system; society.

We are just like any other particles reacting with each other.  

Answer 4

Ah, but suffering doesn't last forever either, so it comes out a wash.

The sages know that both pleasures and pains are transient. The wise one transcends both, and attains immortality.

From the Heart Sutra:

Form is seen as nothing other than emptiness, even while remaining as it is;

And emptiness is seen as nothing other than form, even while remaining as it is;

Feeling, perception, conceptualization, and consciousness itself all are seen as emptiness, even while remaining just as they are.

All ways, paths, and doctrines are not other than emptiness, even while remaining just as they are.

It is seen that there is neither birth nor rebirth,

Creation nor cessation,

Neither purity nor impurity,

Neither decrease nor increase,

Even while all these apparent manifestations continue to appear as such.

In emptiness there is no form, no feeling, no perception, no formation, no consciousness;

No eye, and no objects seen;

No ear, and no sounds heard;

No senses whatsoever, nor any objects which the senses interact with;

No body nor mind, nor any objects linked to them;

No ignorance, no end of ignorance;

No suffering, no origin of suffering, no cessation of suffering, no path, no wisdom, no attainment, and no non-attainment.

Since there is no obscuration of mind, there is no bar to complete present Enlightenment.

Answer 5

"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly."



Buddha

Answer 6

NO!  That's the very nature of pleasure, it's transience.  In the words of Butthead, "you gotta have the parts that suck, that way you know the good parts"--or something close to that

Answer 7

im  sad!!

Answer 8

Memories grow in importance and value as we get older.

So even though all those joyous times come and go, its the fond memories that keep us happy long into old age.

Answer 9

You have to just learn to enjoy the simple pleasures while you have them, and don't worry about when their gone. Just take one day at a time.

Answer 10

Keats knew the answer to this one:

A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:

Its loveliness increases; it will never

Pass into nothingness; but still will keep

A bower quiet for us, and a sleep

Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.

...

Nor do we merely feel these essences

For one short hour; no, even as the trees

That whisper round a temple become soon

Dear as the temple's self, so does the moon,

The passion poesy, glories infinite,

Haunt us till they become a cheering light

Unto our souls, and bound to us so fast

That, whether there be shine or gloom o'ercast,

They always must be with us, or we die.

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We can put it another way, too.  You have a pleasant memory.  Your first kiss, suppose.  You are not actually experiencing this right now, of course.  Would you choose to not have that memory simply because you are not currently experiencing this pleasure?  Would ANYONE?

I don't think they would.  The memory of a pleasure, unlike the memory of a fire, is something that can keep you warm inside forever in a way.  A plainer way to relate Keats' notion.  Peace.

Answer 11

haha thats what i've been telling people for a while. it is funny, kinda sucks but what can you do? i'll tell ya, LIVE IT UP!!! (but don't be a jerkoff)

Answer 12

yea,pleasures come and gobut whats the use of worrying that we get older? for every beginning ther needs to be an end is'nt it? do'nt worry be happy

Answer 13

The obvious response to your question is to consider a different set of values that would be your rubric, if you need a set of rules to govern your life.  Pain and pleasure are not a very rich dimension to use to make decisions on.  You reduce yourself to a world of self centered operand conditioning and ignore the complexity of thought and caring and feelings for others.

All you have discovered is that when you magnify human events beyond our common bond, or if you live a self centered life, you lose the humanity in yourself.  The way out of that myopic view is the explore the world of other people of all varieties, not just some artificial standard of "best".  Everyone is "best".  You just haven't discovered it yet.  Although I admit that discovering the best in some people is harder with some people than with others.  But that just makes the puzzle more interesting as complexity always does.

Answer 14

Everything you learn in Life is something you hold on to.

Each Beautiful moment shared a pleasure.

Everything Nature has to offer, Created for you to behold and enjoy.

Memories we keep. Some good some bad, but always with us to reflect back on.

Yes Death is inevitable, but It is Life we live,the memories of that Life is what we take with us for all eternity. If I can die knowing I have made a few people Happy in my time here,then I have not Lived in Vain.

Answer 15

Pfft, I'm happy, cause then I know pain does'nt last ether...

Answer 16

Yes, it is sad, humbling, frightening, and so much more. Yet life is all the more precious because it is fleeting. When we realize our transience, we are provoked to find meaning and purpose, to make amends in our interpersonal relationships, to take risks, to savor, to be more fully present in the here-and-now, and so much more.

There is an incredible quote that gives me much inspiration and hope: "Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us." In other words, awareness of one's finiteness can serve a positive function by catalyzing us to take action in our lives.

Its normal to have death anxiety. Its an existential concern that impacts us all, consciously and unconsciously. I am currently reading a book called "Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death" by Irvin Yalom. I would highly recommend it! Even if you're not struggling full force with the fear of death, it will bolster you nonetheless :) The author builds upon the works of great philisophical thinkers such as Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Heidegger, Epicurus, Spinoza, and more to build a basic philosophy or guide for "staring at the sun," or coming to terms with death. If you like philosophy and psychology, then you're in for a treat!