Isn't what's under the gift wrap more important than whether the gift is already open?

Question

As we live and learn, hopefully we grow wiser and more able to cope with the challenges life throws at us, in our friendships and relationships.

Become more compassionate, thoughtful, empathetic and kind.

Why then is purity treated as a commodity, when in ever other field of endeavor, we learn by stumbling and picking ourselves up again, becoming resilient and competent. And in so doing, better able to support and encourage those around us.

Why then is Purity treated as such a valuable commodity by some?

Isn't what's under the gift wrap more important than whether the gift is already open?

Answer 1

you mean the same way the media says "s*x sells" ?

Answer 2

Well, I sure wished I had waited and my hubby had waited till we were married.  I almost want to throw up thinking of my ex and it also causes a bit of unfounded jealousy when the thoughts of my hubby with someone creep into my mind.

I think we should shoot for the best, and the best is no s*x before marriage and one partner for life (that would eradicate the std wave also)

Answer 3

yes but presentation is important too

Answer 4

no need to hate on others just because you aint pure twig.

Answer 5

If your talking about virginity, I have to say, I don't know.  Before pregnancy tests, virginity was the only way that men knew that the woman they were married wasn't pregnant with another man's child, that they didn't want to raise as their own.  But men have never minded marrying a woman that had been married before, especially if she had money.  

There is also the erroneous belief that a woman who had s*x before marriage might not be able to control her sexual impulses, and might commit adultery.  I think this is what men think in countries that still prize virginity.

I think teens should avoid s*x because they are not always mature enough to practice safe s*x, and are not in a position to handle the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy.  Emotionally they are more vulnerable to being hurt by break-ups.  

However, since there is so much more to marriage than s*x, trying to stay a virgin before marriage might lead you to get married to someone who is ill-suited to you, just because there is a strong physical attraction.

Answer 6

Perhaps stumbling and picking ourselves up is not the only way we learn. If someone was ill-ridden for 20 years, and suddenly became better, would they be more resilient and competent than one who isn't? What about 30 years....?

I'm not suggesting that there isn't beauty in imperfections but I wouldn't go as far as to see all the beauty in pain and suffering.