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Isnt this a little hypocritical? (opinions please)?

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My boyfriend is a little overprotective.

And now he seems a little hypocritical as well.

He does drugs, crack occasionally, and weed, but he wont even let me try weed once. (Not that I want to be addicted, I just wanted to experience it)

Then he went on about how he loves me to much to let me do drugs, and how if I did them and became addicted he would hate himself.

He rarely eats.

When I try and do a 2 day fast, or count calories, he gets really mad because he says its unhealthy.

He fasts, he counts cals. But once again, he says, you'll slowly slowly become more and more used to it, than boom, before you know it, your anorexic.

OR

Hes had s*x tons of times before he was with me.

Now, when I even mention it, hes all like "No way, Im not having s*x with you. Your only 14, its to early, blah blah."

Keep in mind, he does all this stuff, He first had s*x when he was 13. Hes now 16.

He passes out sometimes, because he rarely eats.

And he does drugs alot.

Dont think, Im like some irresponsible rebel child, I just wanted to ask about that stuff and he like went off on a huge tangent.

But doesnt it seem a little hypocritical?

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  1. He is trying to help you.

    but you really need to get him help.

    Honey, you don't need to be mixed up in drugs. You're only 14! It seems as if you're getting brought down.

    Don't let a BOY bring you down.

    Not to say that you should go all CRAZY and start doing drugs and having s*x and not eat right. But you shouldn't be around someone who is like that.


  2. its not hyprocrital atal. he just nos what hes doing is goin to one day take the fall on him. hes nos hes messin himself up and hes still very young. he is obviously in love with yooh cause everything yooh just said shows that he really cares for yooh!!like if he letyooh do all that stuff then he def was some crackhead who didnt care but hes not a crackhead atal and he is caring and loving even though he may not show it most of the time. guys are weird like that. they dont tend to show thier feelings as much as we girls do.

    goodluck and just listen to him and be there.  

  3. aww actually i find that really sweet

    he obviosuly cares about you ALOT

    by the sounds of it, he doesnt like being the way he is

    and it would kill him if you felt like that too.

    and i think the age difference has a bit to do with it.

    he might feel like he has to protect you cause your his little baby :)

    my uncles like that

    he smokes aaalot

    but everytime he lights up he gives me the longest lecture ever about how i should never touch a cig.

    he also reminds me if he ever found out i smoked hed beat my *** and then hed find the kid who gave them to me and beat his *** lmfao

    cause he hates it!

    i dont know how many times hes tryed to quit but it hasnt worked yet.

    your boyfriend just cares about you alot!

    be happy sweetie!

    oh and good for you helping him through this.. sounds to me like he needs it

    no offence of course (:

    :DDD  

  4. Its not because of your age, its because he has the experience and is probably struggling a lot more than you could know with it and doesn't want it to happen to you. He probably knows that he starts as 'i just want to try it' and turns into.. well, him.

    I don't blame him, honestly. There's a lot of things I've done that if my friends did because I did it, I'd feel guilty as h**l. Don't hurt him more than he's already hurting. Focus on helping him, not getting life experiences you'll regret.

    You /don't/ have to try everything once. No matter what everyone says.

  5. What is wrong with you! Why are you going to throw your life away? He realizes that he is hooked and he thinks that some day he will quit. Some day is right, on that day they will be putting him away where he will never do drugs again. It will be 6 feet down in the ground. If you even begin to understand what I am telling you you will get as far away from him as possible. Because the day he turns you on to them you will be as good as dead also. Can I put it in any plainer language than that?

    Jim B.

  6. Actually, it means he cares about you. You can't try a drug once and not get addicted, having s*x even ONCE before you're an adult is very bad, and I suppose fasting for a day or two is okay, but you need to make sure that you still get enough nutrition in your diet.

    P.S. He isn't saying it because of your age, you really shouldn't be doing drugs, whether your 18 or 81, it makes no difference.

  7. You are not mature enough to be dating someone older than you or have a boyfriend at all!! Why are you dating a drug addict??? Does your mother know what this boyfriend of yours is like??

    I do not care if he tried to stop you from taking drugs, it does not change the fact that he took them to begin with!

  8. You say you try to get him to eat and stop the drugs; however, you can't offically help him...... if you want to experience it yourself. Enabling the behavior and trying something he doesn't find good even for himself.

    Trust me, it is so much cooler and healthier to be the small percent who has never tried weed, than to be a part of the larger percent who has done drugs.

    I know you care about him. I think he cares a lot about you. That is why he is like "no no no" towards you on this stuff.

    He is trying to beat an addiction and doesn't want you to experience it because it is bad for you.

    I do wish he would get more counseling and go to rehab. At his age, he can recover a lot quicker but by time he is 20, he is going to be really bad as far as health.  

    It is GOOD he is being hypocritical. Why? As I said before, he doesn't want you to experience it and go such a route. That is how people start out. Smoking, weed and advance it to speed and other drugs.  

    That is how my mom's ex husband (older siblings dad) started out. That is how all my old middle and high school friends. I was the only one, out of over 20 close friends, who didn't do weed and drugs.  Guess what, 3 are dead, 4 is in jail (multi times) and the rest are not living productive lives.  (that doesn't count the rest who was killed before graduation: 11 of them..all due to drinking/driving and drugs with 1 suicide while being high).

    Where am I? A college graduate going towards my Masters in Medical school, married to a wonderful Marine who came from a family who picked drugs over him, and just bought our first house at age 23.      

    Sorry to say but life is what you make it to be and drugs is a bath that has no happy ending.

    I don't think you are a bad girl or he is a bad guy.

    But I do think eventually, you both are going to make a choice one or both of you will regret.

    With the s*x thing......I agree. Hold off!  Especially if you get pregnant and he can't hold a job because he test dirty on a drug test. Who will support? Will he truly be there for you and the baby rather than the drugs.  If he says he will give up drugs if you got pregnant. Then think of this: Why couldn't he give up the drugs now? Not just for you or the baby, but for himself? ...........

    You got a lot of thinking about your life and future.

  9. It is kind off hypocritcal him doing it then not letting you however i am sure that he cares for you and doent want him to make the mistakes he did

    i think that it is good of you trying to get him go to conselling and make him eat and stop drugs if it was someone else they probably left him by now

    and with s*x do you really want to have s*x when you are 14 ( i'm 14 and dont ) wait until both in a relationship want to have s*x so that it will be special however if you realy want s*x wait until he is high on weed or something then have s*x

    but in answer to your question i dont think that it is too hypocritical but only a little because he obviously cares about u

    hope it helped

  10. drugs are bad dont do them

  11. yeah thats totally hypocritical. thats how my boyfriend was. its annoying i know.

  12. It's not hypocritical, he cares about you. He's addicted to the drugs and being anorexic is a mental disorder. (He might not be anorexic but he said he doesn't eat making assumptions). The way you talk about him, he does seem to care about you a lot, but is a little overprotective. If you really don't like how he's treating you (being hypocritical) talk to him. Sit him down and talk to him about what you just told us.....Hope I helped!

  13. no he realises he's made mistakes and doesn't want u to do the same.

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