Issue after sons sleepover?

Question

My son has a 9 year old friend who stayed over-night at our house last night. today, when we got up my son's bed had been made (by the friend), which surprised me, but I thought nothing of it. tonight when I put him in bed, I pulled back the sheets and there was this big wet stain with an ungodly awful smell to it...

My initial instinct would be to throw the mattress out, but the problem is that it's a very expensive mattress that I purchased within the last year, and I really don't have the funds on hand to replace it right now.

Is there anything I can do to save it?

Also, according to my son, this is an ongoing problem for his friend, and he usually wears pull-ups at night..I guess he forgot to do so when he stayed here.

Do you think I should say something to his parents about this? They certainly didn't bother to alert me to this problem, wouldn't it have been polite to have done so and saved me from a big wet stinky problem?

Answer 1

Tell parents, advising them to gfit him with diapers/pullovers forewarn future hosts.

Explain to your child noew is the time to exercise "keeping a secret" and not to gossip, [because of the danger of revenge by cliques, etc, in school.

Answer 2

I would not call the child's parents. It was an accident and there is no need to embarrass the boy any further. Next time you know(for any sleep over), to put a rubber sheet under the regular sheets.

There are pet urine removers sold in stores that are quite effective for accidents. I have an elderly dog that on occasion "goes" on the bed. I simply use bleach to disinfect the area, allow it to dry and then flip it to the other side and bleach again.

Answer 3

i too have a 9 year old (daughter) and if I was in your situation, I would call the parents. They should have made sure their son had what he needed to prevent accidents AND made sure that you were aware of the problem just so you could help avoid the issue you are in now.

I'm sure that his parents would expect payment if your son had damaged something in their home so it's only fair they do the same.

be cordial when calling explaining that the mattress isn't very old, cost quite a bit of money, and since they didn't tell you about the issue-could they please at least help you with the expenses to replace it. explain to them that you know it wasn't their son's fault and this doesn't mean he's not welcome in your home anymore.

There really isn't anything you can do to save it and it's really unsanitary for your son to continue sleeping on it.

I know the little boy didn't mean to do this and his parents i'm sure are embarrassed about it but I'm a mom and if my child had bedwetting issues I would FOR SURE tell other parents if my child was going to be staying in their home.

good luck to you!!

Answer 4

i would talk to the sons parents but not be rude aboute it maybe ask the kids parents to loan you a little money to help replace the matress

Answer 5

to get the smell out ad to save the matress try lemon juice and im gonna guess alot of it, dont say anything to his parents they will lready know and what are you gonna say to them,?

you have to pay for this matress that your son ruined its not worth your son losing his friend over it.

just try lemon juice and it should be fine

Answer 6

Hey Geena, is your name also Glenda? Because this question is almost identical... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Then you posted it on the canadian yahoo answers. And I think I have seen it before that too on here. I don't know why you keep asking this, but just give it up.

Answer 7

Well, since the moisture is IN the mattress the only thing to do is to do the same as you would with a pet accident. Find an enzyme cleaner and saturate the spot (this will neutralize the odor and break down any bacteria). Allow the mattress to dry and get a waterproof mattress pad. On the first sunny day you can drag the mattress outside and into the sun (this also is useful to freshen mattresses).

I would request at least financial assistance in replacing the mattress. The parents didnt advise you that there was a problem with bedwetting and didnt provide the child with the needed pull ups. He probably made the bed because he was embarrassed.  Now, you know the child has a problem you need to be tactful when the child is over at your home.

Wetting the bed can be caused by many things: too much liquid before bed, sleeping too deeply, muscle spasms, and yes abuse. But I wouldnt jump to the idea that the child is being abused just because of one accident.

Answer 8

Your being far too harsh on the poor kid,  build a bridge - and get the **** over it.

Answer 9

yes. tell his parents but dont b rude.u know it happens but sheesh lol

Answer 10

Clean the matress.

i wouldnt say anything to the friends parents it would be very emabrsing to the other child. he would feel like he is doing something wrong its not his fault he wet the bed it probly makes him very upset

Answer 11

sponge it down. Put it outside to dry. Then put baby powder or baking powder on it to absorb the smell and leave it for a couple of hours and vaccumn off

Answer 12

First this is a nine year old little boy and accidents happen.  Even kids that dont wet the bed on a regular basis do have accidents and it can be very embarrassing for them.  The kid was probably afraid if he told you then you wouldnt let him come back over anymore.

First you need to clean the mattress.  One accident does not mean it is ruined and you have to go out and buy a new one.  Steamcleaners work miracles on even the older mattresses when it comes to cleaning them.  Get the soap for it that is also good for pet accidents and clean it good on one side let it dry flip it over and then clean the other side.  After it has dried completely spary it with febreeze, put on a mattress cover and remake the bed.

When it comes to the parents I wouldnt say anything at all right now but the next time the boy comes to stay all night I would simply pull the mom aside and explain that you know accidents happen and would she make sure to pack a pullup for her son as you are aware he has issues with wetting the bed.  If you go over there demanding payment for this or making a big scene then you are going to embarrass her, her son and your son and chances are stop a friendship.

Answer 13

You should always put waterproof mattress pads on youth beds you just never know. I don't think I would bring this up to the parents it was not intentional. Not much you can do about the mattress.

Answer 14

Well 9 is too young to sleep over yet having those kind of accidents after 6yo may mean the kid has problems in his house anyway he is already shy and trying to cover up things rather than confront wich may mean fear and abuse, I would try to wash the mattress, and then keep an eye on the other kid just in case he has a problem, wouldn´t mention to the kid parents if i can´t keep my mood to avoid uncomfortable situations but is better if you can chat about it, maybe the parents will offer to pay for the cleaning or a new mat

Answer 15

I would calmly mention it to his parents. Im sure they will be understanding, and maybe this wont happen again to someone else's bed. I dont think you will be getting a new mattress out of it though, unless they are really nice of course.  Good Luck!

Answer 16

I would call the parents and alert them of the situation that you are faced with. They know he has a problem wetting the bed if they are buying him pull-ups to wear at night. He probably was embarrassed to wear them at your house in front of your son/his friend, but that is when the parents should have said then he couldn’t spend the night, OR alert you and let you make the decision if this is something you wanted to deal with. I would ask them seriously to have the mattress cleaned. Good mattresses are not cheap, and this one is practically brand new from what you said. That is disgusting that your son has to sleep on someone else's urine! In the meantime, try to clean and dis-infect it as much as you can and get a mattress protector for your son to sleep on.

Answer 17

If you allow your son to invite another persons child over always be prepared for the worst. I wouldnt request for the other parents to pay in costs of cleaning the mattress.

To clean teh mattress, use a professional steam cleaner with an attachment. That works absoleutly wonders. Or call a cleaning service and they may charge 40- 50 bucks to clean. Probably less, just a ball park figure.

If your son was aware of the problem, he surely should have said something to you ahead of time. In a weird way, your son is also to blame for the accident. (why didnt he tell you earlier, you could have put a mattress protector on it or made some other arrangement)

However if this is a problem that has been consistent for the boy, maybe the parents should have said something. It couldnt be possible that the parents thought the situation was under control, or were too worried about their sons feelings. Is it possible that the boys parents were worried he wouldnt be allowed to stay over?

I dont know anyone involved, but hope that this information will assist you in further sleepovers, with that boy, or other children. You are the adults and with a good open line of communication, problems as these can be avoided. As a mother, im inclined to ask questions about others children from what kind of foods are ok, to tv, and what not. I always liek to know from the parent what their child is like.

good luck, happy easter!

Answer 18

No, dont say anything to the child's parents.

that will embarrased him and he might endup mad at ur son.

what u can do to save ur mattress is take it outside and put soap and water just where the stain is and leave it out for a day. in a place where it will get a lot of sun.

that will get rid of the smell and probably the stain.

Answer 19

OK, that is disgusting. So here is what I would do...

I would wash all the sheets, blankets and everything on the bed. Also, clean the mattress as much as possible. Try to use stain remover and stuff like that. Then when it smells better and is cleaner your should flip the mattress over, so you can have the cleaner side. I would then call the parents, and tell them of your situation. But be sure not to offensive to them or there son. Just talk to them about it, so that you can get your point across.

I feel so sorry for you, I honestly do. I would be mad about the mattress and everything. But continue to let the boy come over and don't make anything out of it in front of him.

****I got my period in my aunties guest bedroom...on her sheets and new mattress last summer. I felt SO bad, I didn't know how to tell her. And it would hurt me if she didn't let me got to her house anymore, because it wasn't my fault. =[

Answer 20

Wash EVERYTHING thoroughly. Disinfect the mattress with a bleach solution (1 part bleach to 10 parts water) and let it dry. You should ALWAYS have a waterproof cover...

Answer 21

Mix some baking soda and hydrogen peroxide together with a WOOD spoon and saturate the area and let dry.

Answer 22

The child's parents should have told you about his problem but obviously they didn't. To late now to say anything because it could cost your child his friendship with this boy.

Sometimes we learn things the hard way. Have his mattress professional cleaned. And...

Any more sleep overs, remember to ask the parents if their children have any bed wetting issues.lol

Answer 23

I had the same problem. One of my son's friends was always sleeping over and wetting the bed. So I asked him how he sleeps at home. He said he sleeps on a waterproof blanket, which his parents didn't bother to give him when he came to our house. I guess they only worry about their bed.