Issues with in laws....

Question

My husband's parents are so controlling now that our first child is born. We had an altercation a few weeks ago where I let all my feelings known after they accused me of several things that were false.

My husband is on my side, which I'm so grateful for. However, now I don't want to see nor talk to them. I know time will heal, but I know it has to be faster than I'd like. Any advice?

Answer 1

in laws like to be controlling of the first born - this happened tome. a fight too. the only thing to do is to have everyone air out their problems and fix them to the best you can. don't kiss a** or you will be sorry. Try having them over for a dinner and a talk to finally smooth things out and then you can express your feelings and she can express hers. one thing I have come to find out is that in laws tend to thing just because we are young when we gave birth - we know nothing and need their help for everything. they want to take care of the baby- but for you they don't do anything. I solved my problem by finally sitting down with her and telling her all of my thought about the problem and my dreams for my child and then she told me hers and by nights end - everything was mended.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This is your child, not your in-laws.  If they are not respecting your rights as a parent...then maybe a little space and time is in order.  I'm not saying you should punish them because that would punish your child as well.  Just take a break from them and let them get the idea that if they can't respect you, then they aren't going to interact with you as much any longer.  There's no winning in family disputes.  

Answer 4

Simple. Let your phone take messages so you can screen their calls. Do not answer your door if they are in habit of coming by uninvited. Tell your husband you are concerned for you and your baby and the stress has been too much about his parents so that you KNOW he will understand when you distance yourself now. If he really needs to visit them, tell him he needs to go to their place. Just pretend you moved out of the country as far as they are concerned. Dont invite them over.