Issues with my mother ?

Question

well here's the deal I'm a competative swimmer and my mom decided to make me swim today unexpectadley but I was so echausted from 4 hours of swimming yesterday that I said I couldn't but she drove me there and I was crying because I just couldn't do it and she waslike almost crying saying I'm sorry honey but this is best for you hey listen today I'm gonna buy you this and that ect. after I told her I just am so tired I don't wanna go she flipped out turned the car around started screaming saying your just aloser no more swimming or anything your not cut out for anything Ect. And dropped me off in front of my house. I love her so much and I don't want her to be mad at me but I was tired...How can she go

From being loving to mean so quick... What should I do

Answer 1

Wow sounds like you all need to communicate on a different level. From one extreme to the next is not good for anyone in any situation. Does your Mom see a counselor? Maybe she should, bribing kids to do things is not the way. Screaming and yelling never works either.

Good luck

Answer 2

Wow 4 hours of swimming in one day I hope this is not your expected daily routine.  However if you are a competative swimmer you should practice daily at least a little...  Maybe someday you will become rich from swimming...

Answer 3

i have similar issues with my mom. you just have to know in you heart you did nothing wrong and that maybe she is dealing with things and the way she vents is by venting on you. just try to get away from her when she goes to crazy wacko mood and if you must stay just breathe and channel your emotions and later talk to her bout it good luck

Answer 4

Maybe she was just really stressed and you made it worse by telling her you dont want to swim. It happens a lot in my house.

Answer 5

Is she trying to live all her hopes and dreams through you?

Call her bluff and say you're glad she said no more swimming because you've decided to get into a rock band instead.  Watch her squirm.

Answer 6

She meant well when she was asking you to practice. She wants you to win. But I understand you too. Rest is important too. Just talk to her and say that you understand she wants good for you. but you were tired.

Also you remember one thing that if you are a competitive swimmer then you need the stamina and a strong will power where being tired does not affect your decision.