It's about my man's ex....gimme advice ladies or men?

Question

okay...to put it in a nutshell my man and i have been together for a year. When we met he's ex just had his child. Well, she took the baby and moved about 500 miles away from him because he left her. Well, he tries to go and see the baby, but she says the only way that will happen is if he (my man) stay with her. Without me saying anything he already didn't want to do it. He has already to her that he wants me to be in his son's life too. As do I. We are going to be together for the long haul so it just seems right. His ex said she wanted that to. Well, that was about 7 months ago. NOW, she hates me and doesn't want me around her child at all. She wont let my man go see the baby and just calls him up to shove it in his face. I want to try to talk sense into her but i don't know where i stand. What should we and what should I do about all of this? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

Just tell her, you have a right not to let me see ur baby, but please just let me 'man' [hehe] see the baby. He helped make it. Without him you wouldnt even have his baby.

Or tell ur man to tell her that.

or knock some sense into her.

Answer 2

take that beezy to court!

He has paternal rights, whether the ex likes it or not. And she has no say in who the dad brings around the boy when she's not around (unless he is harming him). And she'll be even more screwed because if he takes her to court they'll have to arrange to meet half way. So she'll just end up traveling 250 miles every week!

SO he could either tell her that and see if he gets a better reaction OR he could just take her to court and she won't know what hit her until she gets there.

You can testify that she has not been willing to let the father have visitation (which will look really bad on her) and then they'll evaluate income and availability and all that.

ONE THING THO...has he been financially supporting the child all this time? Because if he hasn't that will also look really bad on him then, the ex could turn this whole thing around and get more custody PLUS child support.

So, lets hope he's been responsible and is REALLY doing his part because being a father involves more than just being there for the fun times and letting the mother handle all the rest of the upbringing.

Answer 3

You should not do anything this has to do with him and her not you I relize you are there and are going to be there for the long haul but this was before you and if you try to talk sense in to her he will just get mad at you for making it worse ( been there done that) He should get a court order stating he can go and see his child of course you could go to

Answer 4

I'm not so in to difficulties in ex-relationships but I think you should at least try harder to talk some sense into your man's ex. Make here feel as though she is a little more superior than you and hope that things can get better. Whatever you do don't bring any kind of violence to the situation. Violence makes things worse. And if none of that helps maybe you should try to tell your man to stop thinking so much about what's happening with her and start thinking about what can happen with you. Hope I helped a little. Keep smiling : )